Join Riese, Carly, Mal Blum, Gaby Dunn, Brittani Nichols and Cerise Castle for an all-star livecast of our recording for The L Word Episode 509, “Liquid Heat”! (Yes that’s the one where everybody has sex.)
Making queer friends in quarantine, holding a candle for your ex, being out as bisexual at work, unpacking a past relationship with boundary issues, poly nesting feelings, roommates who make you feel like a fifth wheel, social media related envy in your creative community, and MORE! Become an A+ Member today to submit your own advice questions, get access to this twice monthly series, and keep Autostraddle going for everyone.
Even Parrots think we should defund prisons. Also: Storm Guard Sami Whitcomb Leaves WNBA Bubble to be with her wife during the birth of their first child (awww!), preparing for your annual seasonal depression, and what LGBT rights might look like under a Biden presidency.
While it might feel terrifying to dig into our own secrets with so many other things to worry about, this is a season for patient exploration, for deep introspection. What have you been hiding from? Where have you been longing for freedom, and what has been holding you back?
What do we feel our sexual IDs “mean” about us as “people”? Do they have overlaps with our sense of self outside of bed? Do we notice others assuming these things about us (or projecting them onto us)? If so, is that annoying or helpful? Do they get at authentic ways that our sexual dynamics are natural expressions of other parts of our personhood?
Like many of you, we’ve been engaged in more than a few heated discussions about what is at stake in the upcoming 2020 presidential election. We wanted to share the messy, complex thoughts and feelings that Kamala Puligandla, Editor In Chief, and Carmen Phillips, Deputy Editor, have been wrestling with, as we close in on this election.
Everything streaming with queer women and trans characters in October, including hot women in space and a docuseries starring all your favorites.
Six months into the global pandemic, Libra energy is here to help us find balance in an unbalanced world.
“You can’t fundamentally change who this president is. He is a bully and an abuser. He is an unrepentant white supremacist. He lacks even a modicum of basic human decency.”
I did make out with my ex in the house here and there but the family was French and basically encouraged it and gave me wine every night.
Netflix’s Social Distance actually looks pretty good, Cynthia Nixon on that “sexy oyster-eating” scene, Duck Tales’ Penumbra is a lesbian, and let’s all agree to watch One Day at a Time on CBS!
The cottagecore aesthetic is marked by flowy skirts, ceramic toad figurines and bucolic scenery. It’s a denial of hustle culture and a fetishization of coziness that became a hashtag, a lifestyle and, most notably, an escape.
“I don’t know. I can’t keep up with all the rules and definitions and the gatekeep-iness.”
Looking for big, bright, maximalist sex toys? You’ve come to the right place.
Janelle Monáe in bumblebee cosplay, Sarah Paulson flips her wig (literally), and a video Niecy Nash dancing in a bodysuit that you’ve got to see for yourself.
My acceptance of my own pain allows me to have the kind of sex that is rooted in the specificity of my body. I don’t love the idea that I’ll never fist, but I do love the idea that every act of sex I engage with is collaborative. Queerness reminds me that there is no standard way to fuck or live.
Listen, it’s my belief that all witches are gay and that’s just a fact. “The Craft” witches are DEFINITELY all gay, if only because they inspired 25 years worth of gay girls! (Also: meet the lesbian who’s a closeted Trump voter, inside the movement to stop paying student loans, and why queer people get so many migraines.)
I guess what I’m learning about myself is that I’m not quite cut out for these slow-moving, period piece crime dramas. I like my crime shows to be procedural — if there are eight episodes, I want eight crimes. And I like my women front and center, thank you very much.
There’s a reason forbidden romances like this spoke to me as a closeted person!
Getting top surgery with my butch identity is no longer some unattainable fantasy. Now the question firmly rests with me: do I want to go ahead with it or not?