“We Are Who We Are” Doesn’t Do Labels
Are they dating, are they in love, are they having sex, are they best friends? It’s one of We Are Who We Are ‘s queerest pleasures that it’s not about definition.
“Heavenly Creatures” Is a Queer Adolescent Nightmare
The girls are so scared of the realities they’ve been given that their fantasy — murder and all — feels like the only choice. They don’t know yet that there’s a whole world of creative queer people out there.
You Need Help: Was I Ghosted Or Am I Their Backup?
The pandemic has made ghosting easier for those who might otherwise act like mortals.
I Stopped Tweezing in Quarantine and Realized I’m Nonbinary
On the 24th day of quarantine, I turned on all of the lamps in my room and took off all my clothes. Then I stood in front of the mirror and stared.
Donald Trump Is a Loser: We Celebrate, and Then We Get to Work
Yes, this specific nightmare is ending. But we are nowhere near achieving our actual dreams.
Kristen Stewart’s “Happiest Season” Trailer Makes the Yuletide Gayer Than Ever
Baby, all I want for Christmas is this moooooviiieeee.
Pop Culture Fix: This New Angela Bassett, Michelle Yeoh, Lena Headey Movie Sure Does Not Look Straight
Gunpowder Milkshake? Gotta be gay. Also, Jamie Murray claims Myka Bering, Ashley Nicole Black claims the Stacey Abrams biopic, and I claim Batwoman season two as the best thing on TV.
An Abundance of Librarians, Both “Sexy” and Unspecified: 544 Jobs A+ Members Have!
From nursing (THANK YOU!) to forestry to operating a particle accelerator, our A+ members reported working over 500 different jobs in the 2020 Autostraddle Reader Survey.
“Ammonite” Review: Saoirse Ronan and Gay Fossils Can’t Salvage This Drab Affair
It’s less that Winslet feels like Ronan’s mother and more that she feels like Ronan’s dull aunt she sees once a year at Christmas.
Period Pain, A Roundtable: On Cramps, Endometriosis, and Everything In Between
“Knowing what’s up doesn’t totally make it better, but it helps.”
“To L and Back” L Word Podcast Episode 512: Loyal and True
Riese: One boob out. I love the one boob out.
Carly: One boob out is incredible.
NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Mourning A Legend
Mourning Betty Dodson. Plus, what’s up with anti-sodomy laws, r/ToyControl, setting boundaries, and more.
The Dyke Kitchen: That Meat Sauce So Delicious
Then in bold, at the top was one item called Spaghetti With That Meat Sauce So Delicious.
Baopu #79: What is Safe Space?
“Safe spaces were never granted to the marginalized. There’s no freedom without fighting.”
Extra! Extra!: As the Dust Settles, Here’s What We’ve Learned So Far in the 2020 Election
Last week I was full of the nervous anxiety you feel when you know something big is about to happen, and you’re just counting down the clock. This week I’ve been full of the nervous anxiety of indefinite waiting. And yet, in that time, so much has happened in the world. In this week’s Extra! Extra! we share some reflections on the 2020 election and news on events from Vienna to Poland to Ethiopia to the Philippines to New Zealand to Chile.
The Comment Awards Are Reading The Room
Listen, sometimes we all enjoy gay male mermaids.
Into the A+ Advice Box #22: Dating an Older Person, an Untenable Murder Cat Situation, and More!
Is it a “friend” coffee or a “date” coffee, unemployed and feeling unmoored, negotiating initiating intimacy in a relationship with two people on the asexual spectrum, you feel like your best friend is making questionable dating decisions, grooming your armpit hair, taking a break from therapy, you’ve never been in a long-term relationship, trying to exist outside of capitalism, possible pelvic floor concerns — and more!
A Quick and Easy Guide to Making Consent Exciting, Not Scary: An Interview with Isabella Rotman on Her New Book
Rotman’s comic A Quick and Easy Guide to Consent is a fun, well-written, and much needed refresher that I strongly recommend to anyone with a body that wants to connect with others and their bodies.
S L I C K: Dream Palace
When you slide in, the girls unnestle and immediately home in on your navel. They lick their lips and lunge forward. One digs in with both sets of claws.
Also.Also.Also: Memes to Keep You Company While We Wait, Because This Election Is Never Ending!!
Here’s some smart stuff you can read in between obsessively refreshing those result maps, including: Judith Butler on Donald Trump, memes galore because we’re never getting out of this hell, and why your therapist was right — you really can’t plan for uncertainty.