Q:
Are there any good, cheap strap-ons?
A:
It’s hard to find a cheap strap-on without sacrificing quality, and you’re going to have to drop some cash for a toy that will be body-safe and last for more than one thrust. That said, here are some of the options!
Tantus Curve Set
If you’re looking for a dildo and a harness, the Tantus Curve set provides a decent bang for your buck. The Curve dildo is made out of silicone, a non-porous material that’s long-lasting and easy to sterilize for safe use with multiple partners. Plus, the angle is great for both G-spot and prostate stimulation. At $79.99, it’s certainly not cheap, but it’s a great price for a silicone dildo with an optional vibrating bullet. The harness has adjustable straps and fits up to 60 inch hips. While it’s not the most durable harness on the market, you can tighten those straps and wear your dildo nice and high for excellent control.
Pros: Silicone dildo; adjustable straps
Cons: Still pretty pricey; doesn’t fit all bodies
Sportsheets Bikini Harness Set
Like the Tantus Curve set, the Sportsheets bikini harness set comes with a silicone dildo with a slightly bulbous end for hitting that G-spot or P-spot. The harness fits up to 60 inch hips, and while it looks a little flimsy, $66.99 is a sweet deal on a silicone toy and an adjustable harness.
Pros: Silicone dildo; adjustable straps
Cons: Doesn’t fit all bodies
RodeOH Brief Harness
If a harness is all you need, the RodeOH brief is comfortable, machine-washable and inexpensive considering its quality at $49.99. The o-ring is stretchy enough to fit most dildos, and the front pocket has room for a bullet vibe if you want some extra oomf. This harness runs from size XS to 3X. Get this harness one size down from what you’d typically wear. These briefs need to fit tightly to give you more control. I’ve used the RodeOH brief for past couple of years. My only complaint is the o-ring sits a little low, so not every position feels comfortable.
Pros: Easy to take on and off; machine-washable; stretchy o-ring
Cons: It’s not adjustable, so you can only share this harness with a partner if you’re both the same size.
Divine Diva Strap On
The “Divine Diva” is Sportsheets’ plus-size harness that fits hips from 28 to 82 inches. At $49.99, it’s on the expensive side, but the extra support around the back gives this harness a comfortable fit. It comes with three different o-rings, but they might not fit your toy. Make sure your toy fits before you try to get frisky!
Pros: Fits more body types.
Cons: You need different o-rings for different dildos.
Basic Leather Harness
At $39.95, this basic leather harness is a decently priced leather harness that fits hip sizes up to 60 inches. A lot of folks love the sexy look of leather, but the material requires some special TLC (you’ll need rubbing alcohol solution or leather cleaner). This harness comes with three different o-rings, but they might not fit your toy. You can purchase additional o-rings at most sex toy stores.
Pros: Adjustable straps.
Cons: You need different o-rings for different dildos.
Neo Elite Dildo
If you need a dildo for any of the harnesses above, the least expensive, quality dildo I could find is the Neo Elite at $29.95. It’s made out of silicone, it’s slightly curved for comfortable insertion and it comes in blue or pink. Bonus: the end of this dildo is a suction cup, so you can suction it to a wall or the floor and enjoy some orgasmic “me time.”
Pros: Silicone dildo; low price
Cons: Its “realistic” veins might not appeal to everyone
The Reina
Early To Bed
Need another low-cost dildo option for a harness? The Reina is made out of extra flexible silicone and retails for $25. At 4.25 inches in circumference, this one is on the slimmer side, which is great for folks who are new to strap-on sexy time.
Pros: Silicone dildo; low price; extra flexible
Cons: Might be too slim for some folks
The Silk
Tantus
The Silk is a simple, silicone, strap-onable dildo that comes in three sizes, ranging from $30 to $45. This dildo is on the longer side, which can provide some extra reach for folks with larger bodies.
Pros: Silicone dildo; simple design
Cons: Might be too long for some folks
You can chime in with your advice in the comments and submit your own questions any time.
Tantus dildos have a real nice feel 10/10
Have you seen this?
I have this one. Love the brocade and the lacing. A little trickier to clean.
Oh, my! This one is so fancy!
No! Who makes this?
That’s the Broad City Peg Like a Queen Strap On Set by LoveHoney!
And I have a pair of these but haven’t used it yet. They’ve sold really well though.
I’m a big fan of a four-point jock style harness. They’re very stable and adjustable. And corset backed? In red brocade? ok sure
But honestly nothing comes close to this. Attachments sold separately.
Wow.
Right? Vac-u-loc comes up with some great ideas. I personally don’t like most of their actual attachment pieces though, but their line is big enough to have something for just about anyone.
Oh! And something else I got but haven’t tried yet:
If anyone’s used something like this I’d love to get some advice/feedback!
I’ve used something similar in the past and tbh it was rather unwieldy and less fun than expected, but ymmv
I didn’t include any double ended dildo options because I couldn’t find a quality toy for a low price! My favorite double ended dildo is the Fun Factory Share Vibe. It’s pricey but worth it!
I’m one of those people who loves the feeldoe – I have two and I can successfully use them both without a harness for vaginal sex if I’m careful. I haven’t tried any other double/”strapless” designs, but I doubt this one would work as well for that because of the shape of the insertable part for the wearer. One great thing about the feeldoe and other styles with a bulb shape is that it gives g-spot stimulation if you bear down on it or pull on the part that’s sticking out, which can be fun with a partner or just wearing it for play alone.
You’ll need a harness that has a hole all the way through it to use with one of these. And depending on where it hits on your body, you may need a more open/adjustable one since this kind of dildo tends to sit lower on your body than a regular strap-on. I don’t think any of the harnesses mentioned here would work, look for one that’s more strappy and less supportive looking. Or if you’re good with rope you can tie it onto yourself, but that takes some skill…
I have a cheap strappy nylon harness with a through-hole that I could adapt. It’s not as comfortable normally, but I suspect if it was just working in a supporting role it might do the trick. Despite being around rope experts for years, I’m no good at shibari, so yeah.
I can do up a corset real good though!
I know that a lot of folks love the Feeldoe! I definitely want to research that one!
My distributor doesn’t carry them anymore :(
Maybe I’ll be able to pick some up at Altitude next spring
My impression has been that Feeldoes aren’t made for slammin’ and work better with more of a grinding motion. Which I’m into. Very, very, into.
Mine was a Feeldoe and even with a harness it still managed to pop out at every (in)opportunity. But of course there are so many variables at play that could make or break the experience for any given pair of people
The ‘Roadster’ Strap-On from Cherry Bombin’ wear is a great option! Voted top 3 by Gender Queer Porn Star Jiz Lee XOX cherrybombinwear.com
Oh dear.
The only thing I know about strap- ons is this: the emotional hurricane their existence, and the fact that other women, cis and trans, actually experience what can be done with them (affirmed here) expose me to motivated me to invent an exercise. It consists of thinking, visualizing, and saying ‘strap- on’ like I think, visualize and say ‘kitchen sink’. For, being caught off-guard, losing one’s balance, to blush or to stammer does no good at all. After going into full hermit mode I neglected this, forgot about it, and now my silly fingers tremble while I type. Back to the mental gym, Witch! Thank you all for reminding me.
RODEOH! Definitely. Stop here. They have tons of styles and colors to choose from … I still have one of the originals from 2013, hangin’ in! But, I do check the discount section – they are only like $29 bones, plus they have the oops silicone. The high quality good stuff for $29 too. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
ok so i have the reina and have some thoughts!
pros:
-the price is so right and has a really nice feel despite its low price
-it’s dual density which i personally find far more comfortable
-it’s not very realistic (which is hard to find with dual density dildos)
-it’s a very good beginner size and my girlfriend who had never used a dildo before found it really comfortable and approachable too
cons:
-it’s def a littttttle bit small. again very good beginner option but i’m already thinking i’d like something a little bit bigger when it’s in my budget
-not super realistic but if you’re looking for something entirely abstract this isn’t it either…it’s got a urethra hole(?) and like two symmetrical veins and one ball, but its small and only one? kind of weird design choice but it’s not distracting just a bit odd
-biggest con is that it only sort of works for strapping. it does fit in a harness but if you really get going it WILL pop out. we realized it’s because the one ball makes the base too small to hold in the o-ring and we’re considering trying to duct tape it down or something because it just will not stay in. that said it does work in certain positions ok, but definitely not the most versatile option (but very good if you’re just trying something out at a low price.)
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts! If you’re having issues with the Reina staying in your harness, you can get a smaller O-ring if you have the kind of harness that allows you to snap different O-rings in. If you’re using a fabric harness that doesn’t let you switch out the O-ring, you can try using an O-ring stabilizer (I know Spare Parts makes one).