The Autostraddle team offers advice on a relationship crisis, dealing with the fact that your ex has moved on quickly, a friend who is less interested in rekindling the friendship than you are, commitment and marriage and more!

Making queer friends in quarantine, holding a candle for your ex, being out as bisexual at work, unpacking a past relationship with boundary issues, poly nesting feelings, roommates who make you feel like a fifth wheel, social media related envy in your creative community, and MORE! Become an A+ Member today to submit your own advice questions, get access to this twice monthly series, and keep Autostraddle going for everyone.

With a total of five lesbian, bisexual, queer and trans Black women characters in the main cast, Lena Waithe’s “The Chi” certainly made history this summer. But did making “The Chi” gayer turn it into a better show?

You’re as epic as the concept of love and as small as the town of Squahamish. You’re as perfect as a movie can be and as messy as a movie should be. To say it simply, I love you.

We have the transcript as well as links to any products that were shown during Merry Fistmas: A Virtual Vaginal Fisting Workshop, AND the link to the recording, all wrapped up for you right here!

Advice for coping with a parent who’s an addict, being accountable to people you’re dating, and more!

“This industry needs an overhaul. It’s clear the time for excuses is over now and it’s going to be about action.”

I hope those of you who celebrate had a relatively joyous Rosh Hashanah. And now please join me in the High Holy Day of revisiting a Jewish queer woman classic.

“I just want you to know that I don’t even want to go to Ilene Chaiken’s pool, but I want that for you so badly. I would die for your right to go to Ilene Chaiken’s pool.”

Sexual and gender fluidity feel possible for every character. It’s a girl power narrative that feels loose in its definition of girl — and certainly loose in its assumption of who those girls will date.

How do two queer people still figuring out their sexualities, their genders, their shames, their traumas, their pasts, their futures, their vastly different presents make a relationship work?

Is it a “friend” coffee or a “date” coffee, unemployed and feeling unmoored, negotiating initiating intimacy in a relationship with two people on the asexual spectrum, you feel like your best friend is making questionable dating decisions, grooming your armpit hair, taking a break from therapy, you’ve never been in a long-term relationship, trying to exist outside of capitalism, possible pelvic floor concerns — and more!

“I can’t speak for all harm reduction efforts, and I think the impacts can be different depending on who you’re doing outreach with or who you are centering, but here in rural West Virginia, it’s a small community; the impact is so apparent.”

“This show gives me permission to be the person I am and the artist I want to become.”

Wynonna searches for Peacemaker while Waverly helps her girlfriend as the consequences of Nicole’s actions start to hop into the light.

Narratives of violence and abuse are so familiar in our history and culture that we hardly notice them. Corinne Manning shares what it took to notice and transform these narratives in their own fiction and their story collection, We Had No Rules.

“I’m the first google result for ‘lesbian stripper’ and I’m so fucking proud of that!”

A young black queer girl goes to her first pride parade, tackles her fears of her own queerness rooted in acceptance, and becomes friends with other black queer people after the death of her parents.

This show forces straights to do what lesbians do all the time — talk about their deepest fears and feelings, endlessly.

Dating and inexperience and some really positive advice about this, grieving while starting graduate school, coping with feelings of jealousy and more!