The AS team tackles advice for entering your 30’s (and we’d love to see yours in the comments), as well as advice for a member who’s found their sex drive has disappeared shortly after moving in with a partner, advice on coming out and labels, untangling trauma while exploring sex with your partner, finding boots that don’t make your feet hurt, and more!

Did Denise Richards cheat on her husband with Brandi Glanville? Are the best liars the ones who are very bad at lying? Let’s delve into the reality TV show where logic and kindness go to die.

The team tackles so many topics in this one! We cover questions about queer haircuts, crushing on unavailable people, dealing with rejection, feeling like you’re not built for casual dating, embracing media you like without shame, a partner blaming your body for his anxieties around sex, the truths behind an emotional affair…two completely different questions that reference Rachel Maddow…and a whole lot more!

It’s time for long drives, short cries, thwarted dates and exes who aren’t quite ready to say goodbye!

How NYC’s jail policies are being changed in response to Layleen Polanco’s death, the highs and lows of last weekend’s NWSL Challenge Cup, Sonia Sotomayor’s legacy of standing against systemic racism on the Supreme Court, and more.

Naya Rivera was a firecracker, a superstar, a singular talent who simply could not be relegated to the background.

I choose her, always, because she’s my home and my light.

“My next note on this scene is, “I literally screamed in this hotel room,” which is true.”

Can you be involved in pit bull rescues and be straight? Sure, of course you can. I’m just saying.

Anne Lister is that dyke.

Geffen digs into the collision between gender and technology in music and beyond to demonstrate how pop and rock music have been a vehicle for gender disruption for their entire existence.

“There. She. Is.” Glennon wrote in her new memoir, Untamed, when she recalled the moment Abby Wambach entered her life. I assumed that would be the central conflict of Untamed. And in some ways it is — but not the ways I expected.

Here’s what we loved this year, and what pained us to see.

“Why is she being like, ‘Oh, I can’t kiss you. I’m in a relationship.’ Like, no, you’re not. You met an older woman at a party last weekend. Who among us hasn’t? Take it easy.”

This week’s Extra! Extra! reports another bit of news that flew under the radar, this time regarding gun control (it’s not good, you guys). We also cover the heinous violence against three trans women in LA this week, USAID’s erasure of LGBTQ+ people and an update on what’s going on around the US regarding police violence and the protests. And then we turn to the elections – by which I mean Russia, Belarus and the US.

Everybody on this list except Angela Chase really believes in themselves and I truly do appreciate that in a human being.

Not all libraries have Kanopy access, but if yours does, you are hot to trot, my friend. Much like the subjects of the documentary about same-sex ballroom dancing, Hot to Trot, discussed within! Just a little LGBT documentary humor for you. 

“I’m not interested in creating comfortable spaces. I’m interested in safer spaces where people can be challenged.” Sammie Ablaza Wills gathers wisdom from their elders and fellow trans, queer community to lead the grassroots org, API Equality Northern California.

Autostraddle’s TV Team shares our picks for the best TV shows of 2020 featuring girls, gays and theys.

The first question people asked me when I got engaged was what I was going to wear to the wedding. My impulse reaction was to blurt out, “how the fuck should I know?”