Not to be one of those divorced people who makes everything about their divorce!, but getting divorced will really teach you that nothing about making something “real” or deciding you’re all in makes it any more secure.

We do lose something when dedicated queer spaces like Into, Girlfriends and SheWired shutter or AfterEllen goes full TERF, but we also lose something when The Awl, The Hairpin and The Toast do. These were places where writers were free to experiment, to be weird, to make writer-first content that isn’t easily monetizable.

The reason I didn’t like “Never Have I Ever” wasn’t because I didn’t feel seen. It’s because Mindy Kaling and I are clearly looking at the same world, but Kaling is expecting me to overlook all of its pain.

This week’s Extra! Extra! looks at a whole slew of non-election related news, including LGBTQ+ rights and the trifecta of global pandemics: police violence, climate change and COVID-19. And then, of course, we do take a look at election-related news too.

“And there was Susan and Rachel at the heart of it all, dancing to the band Susan had sworn would play her wedding if she ever got married. As they laughed and moved to the music and worked up such a sweat that their jackets had to come off, I saw a glimpse of the future wedding I hope for, marrying someone I love, the two of us not fitting so strictly into the feminine.”

For the first themed A+ Advice Box in our new themed series, you asked questions about dating yourself after having a kid, dating your partner after lockdown, using dating apps when you are tired of screens in general, getting into casual dating, dating again after time periods ranging from 7 months to 4 years, whether love is a lie, and more!

When we’re open to it, giving ourselves honest space to roleplay can be pretty powerful stuff.

A look into the history — and present! — of mid-century lesbian pulp fiction.

Intimacy bubbles are the new polycules, the conversations to have before considering an unmasked hangout, why you were right to break up with that person who was wrong for you and more.

You all are just so cool!

“Ìfé is a story that not many queer people have seen come out of Nigeria. I’m really hoping that, apart from everything else that it does – normalizing the queer experience and being a great source of representation – I’m really hoping that it brings joy to the LGBT community.”

Luckily for us, the result of the Wubble is a seemingly endless stream of TikToks and Instagram Stories that give us a peek into the lives of the players.

We’ve got a lesbian taxidermist in Run, a fish cop in Hightown, Janelle Monae in a rowboat and so much more.

Did Denise Richards cheat on her husband with Brandi Glanville? Are the best liars the ones who are very bad at lying? Let’s delve into the reality TV show where logic and kindness go to die.

The AS team tackles advice for entering your 30’s (and we’d love to see yours in the comments), as well as advice for a member who’s found their sex drive has disappeared shortly after moving in with a partner, advice on coming out and labels, untangling trauma while exploring sex with your partner, finding boots that don’t make your feet hurt, and more!

I choose her, always, because she’s my home and my light.

The team tackles so many topics in this one! We cover questions about queer haircuts, crushing on unavailable people, dealing with rejection, feeling like you’re not built for casual dating, embracing media you like without shame, a partner blaming your body for his anxieties around sex, the truths behind an emotional affair…two completely different questions that reference Rachel Maddow…and a whole lot more!

It’s time for long drives, short cries, thwarted dates and exes who aren’t quite ready to say goodbye!

How NYC’s jail policies are being changed in response to Layleen Polanco’s death, the highs and lows of last weekend’s NWSL Challenge Cup, Sonia Sotomayor’s legacy of standing against systemic racism on the Supreme Court, and more.

Naya Rivera was a firecracker, a superstar, a singular talent who simply could not be relegated to the background.