Just remember: it only gets harder from here on out!

The show’s Halloween episode delivers horror, humor, queerness, and — most importantly — A CALIGULA SIGHTING.

Lady gays abound on this week’s episode of Top Chef! Plus updates on: the season finale of This Is Us, Nancy Drew, Charmed, All Rise, and All American. Also, the trailer for the new gay Gossip Girl is here, you know you love us, XOXO.

As annoying as it is, probably, to hear it, you really have to lead with love. It’s not our responsibility to love people who hate us or wish us ill, but if those people are your friends or family, it is yours. If you genuinely care about your family and want them to be and do better, let that ground your conversation.

Plus updates on Legacies and All American!

My grandparents and mother were crowded around my grandfather’s laptop; they had lit candles on a cake and sang happy birthday. I was about to make excuses to go back to studying when my grandmother mentioned the referendum. “You know, we’ll see your sister in a few weeks. She’s coming back for the vote.”

What finally swung it for me was at the end of a recent episode when, out of nowhere, Dolly Parton appeared.

From the crucial necessity of giving Black trans women a platform to speak to the legacy of the fight for marriage equality to the urgency of addressing FOSTA/SESTA, six takeaways from last night’s Presidential Town Hall.

What do you do with your facial hair, how do you make friends in your 30’s, where is your motivation these days, how do you cope with your wife breaking things off, with an unhealthy friendship, with changes in your sexuality? The team answers these questions and so many more!

Also in our weekly LGBTQ+ TV round-up, updates on The Chi, All American, iCarly, Motherland: Fort Salem, and The Republic of Sarah!

Being in your 30’s with no queer dating experience, packing a carry-on for a long-distance date, dealing with astrology if you don’t believe in it, and more!

How Well Do You Really Know Your Sex Bench? Take This Quiz to Find Out.

Drew: Then Kehlani does a little Titanic, which means “putting a hand on the fogged-up glass”—
Riese: It means “causing a ship to hit an iceberg and then sink.”
Drew: Which… metaphorically? You could argue…

“Through frank conversations with cross country mates and cheeky hints in coming-of-age films, I learned that masturbation is something people do to their vaginas with fingers, shower heads and (though I often doubted it) hairbrush handles. I intrinsically knew that what happened when I pressed my thighs together and held my breath was masturbation, too, but as my Encyclopedia of Wank expanded with no reflection of my own methods, it became clear that I was missing a fundamental element of jerking off.”

We have 26 whole questions on all things gender! From parenting to transition to clothing to inclusion and exclusion in queer spaces, and more!

Thomas: I remember hearing that there was a trans character named Max, and that he gave birth and that possibly he was inspired by my actions.
Riese: A hundred percent, he was inspired by you.
Carly: A thousand percent.

“It’s a real mark of our collective queer delusion that everyone tries to forget how weird it is when serial roof marauder Piper Perabo climbs on top of her car to screech about wankers over the standstill of London traffic.”

Heather Hogan noticed that I had taken up permanent residence in the comments of “Boobs on Your Tube” every Friday, basically writing recaps of my own (I felt lost, Autostraddle was my port in the storm). Heather asked if I had ever considered writing about television as a career. She said, “We can pay you. Not as much as we’d like to, but we’ll find the money. Is that something you’d be into?”

I wrote back, “That is something that I would VERY MUCH be into! In fact, I hope it’s not too unprofessional to say that I would love it with all of my heart.”

Janelle Monáe and Tessa Thompson are baiting us for Democracy this Election Day… and I’m not mad at it? Also: Lots of good, thoughtful election reads that (mostly) won’t piss you off and concrete, actionable ways to distract yourself right now if you need it.

With Punkie Johnson, SNL just got 100% more lesbian, with a record breaking two (lol, yes TWO!) out lesbians in the cast at the same time.