Fashion blogger Meg Clark on why fashion blogging matters, trans activist lawyer Dean Spade unpacking feminist discourse around trans surgery. Though very different people/topics, both touch on how a “looks don’t matter” perspective disables us from having important conversations about gender/society/self. Also; 39% of young Swedish ladies lust for other ladies, fancy perfume, marriage officials love love, Margaret Cho directs a kickin’ new video, and Lesbians deal with HIV.

After this weekend you’d expect the gay rights movement to be more united than ever. Instead, it seems to be dividing. A special comment from Autostraddle on what happens next.

Lesbians don’t just love the internet, they love meeting each other on the internet. Also; New York City’s Gay-Town entertainment complex proposal, Oprah has the transgendered quarterback turned lesbian filmmaker, Lt. Dan Choi’s Pride Parade plans, Phyllis Lyon interview, and our Valentine’s Day Plans at Stilleto’s UNITE in Fashion.

As promised, Dani Campbell took Autostraddle with her to this year’s Winter Party Festival in Miami Beach, Florida; where she chatted it up with Pam Grier (Kit Porter from “The L Word” and FOXY F*CKING BROWN), who is actually the most awesome person of all time. Dani gets tips on becoming a better activist from Rea Carey, the Executive Director of the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force. The camera loves Dani Campbell, it just told me so!

Trying to keep Obama out of schools. Lady Gaga might do something really crazy at the VMAs you guys what will it be? Do Lindsay Lohan & Sam have sex photos and why do we want to see them?

Maine is over me. But I just can’t get over Maine. Welcome to the first “Riese’s Pieces” column, where I turn feelings into sentences and hopefully, sometimes, actual points.

Sometimes I feel like Callie & Arizona will never make out again. Instead, we have Drew Barrymore’s soft butch, Modern Family’s truly modern family, Hillary Duff’s hotness (maybe), and adorable episodes of The Office & How I Met Your Mother.

This week on Glee, Will raps twice, the same things that usually happen continue to happen, everyone speaks in metaphors, The Lynch wears a zoot suit, and Carlytron cries a thousand mashed-up tears.

New NOM ad to stop gay marriage in Iowa, Lesbian couple tossed from church, Guiding Light spin-off features lesbian storyline of Natalie & Olivia, Olivia Wilde & Claire Danes strike a pose, Caster Semenya gender saga & Skanks in NYC saga continues, Lady Gaga will wear her new dress tonight.

Caster Semenya is on suicide watch, Jessica Simpson lost her lesbian dog, and we don’t like Kate Moennig’s haircut for Three Rivers. Oh, and yodeling lesbian twins!

The history of lesbian closeting in Hollywood — and why, even today, so many lesbians prefer to stay in the closet. Also a Desperate Housewives lesbian storyline mini-cap, Tila Tequila’s Australian karaoke, an amazing Taylor Swift parody and Lindsay Lohan’s new interview.

Alex & Riese cartoon recap their NSFW Friday night in Las Vegas because that’s what they did instead of writing this, and there were topless ladies dancing there. Also; porn bingo for LGBT rights, feminist porn, BDSM for ladies, hand-bras, and so much more!

Research shows that lesbians make better parents, and “pro-family” groups get upset when research shows that lesbians make better parents. Also, trouble for the Houston mayoral candidate, gay gene testing forbidden and new strategies for Prop 8.

Obama, we give up with you! Mia Kirshner wants you to come to her book party. Cherin Dabis interviewed in NY Mag, Katy Perry knows Lady Gaga is starting something, New York Times Magazine interviews Hillary Clinton, the Save Bryce campaign faces challenges and Time Travel Thursday!

In Tim Burton’s “Alice in Wonderland,” our little Alice is all grown up — into a feminist heroine. And it’s about time.

Showtime has greenlit nine episodes of The Real L Word: Los Angeles,” from L Word creator “Ilene Chaiken” and reality producers Magical Elves (“Top Chef”). reality show. Perez Hilton gets a free pass on misogyny … why? How Do You Like Us Now? Not so much, apparently, as the National Review has a new trend piece about … wait for it … being against gay marriage!

How Do You Like Us Now? Tuesdays! Angelina Jolie Uncensored Gia, Lesbian Pron Tax, Melrose Lesbians, Lady gaga, I Met My Lesbian Lover at Cowboy Bible Camp and right-wing bigots trying to ruin our lives in Washington and Massachusetts, rearing up to fight in NY

According to the pro-DADT “logic,” there’s really no reason for lesbians to get kicked out. A straight male tells Autostraddle his opposition to DADT. Also; anti-homophobia ad hits production snag and The Lunar New Year’s gay inclusion.

Happy New Year! Happy Palindrome Day! They’re giving “The Babysitters Club” a makeover and not the Claudia kind! Are you still hung over? Would it make you feel better to see pictures of Lilo in a bikini? Also: New Hampshire midnight marriages, Megan Fox’s feelings about kissing girls, and LESBIAN TEACHER SEX BRAWLS.

Your favorite lesbians are helping Haiti, conservative commentators are on our sides, Gaga loves us, Rosie wants to make out with Sue Sylveste, Maureen Dowd talks to our favorite Prop 8 Trial lawyers, Megan Mullaly joins “Party Down,” Gender Puzzle film looks at the science of gender, Queen Latifah’s sexuality analyzed via winterwear, GenAlso, some celebrities kissed!