“I feel like people started enacting these borders around it and categorizing it, and that felt so bad and wrong, and the antithesis of everything that it should be. Then, some people also really conflated it with the idea of being genderless or agender, and I’m like, “No…” I feel a lot of gender feelings! I don’t know what they are, or what they mean, but they’re there.”

“My purse is always full of sewing supplies and cheese snacks.”

“If Ventura is a ‘charmingly hip wine mom of a town’ does that make this the Mommi of A-Camps?”

Of 118 major studio releases in 2019, 15 included gay men, eight included lesbian or bisexual women, and zero included trans characters.

When I was a teenager, my parents prepped for the y2k crisis. Now I’m trying to understand what queer preparedness looks like in an uncertain time.

The public library is in the unique position to pick up where public education leaves off—to succeed where public education fails. It’s time we start rethinking what a library can be.

This fall we’ve got terrifying queer horror, swoony lesbian romance, cute sapphic YA, intriguing lit fic, monstrous women in fantasy and sci fi, new feminist history books, and much more!

“I would vote for a dead dog if it was running against Trump.”

Any app is a dating app if you have confidence and a good selfie. Combine that attitude with Instagram’s many features for actually getting to know what someone is like and connecting with their life, and you’re halfway to adopting a cat with someone or just sucking their face off, whichever you’re looking for.

Being in your 30’s with no queer dating experience, packing a carry-on for a long-distance date, dealing with astrology if you don’t believe in it, and more!

Also, did you see that Crystal Dangerfield’s girlfriend changed her Twitter handle to “Crystal’s ROY Trophy / Her #1 Fan” and I just CANNOT WITH THE CUTENESS.

Even prior to COVID-19, harm reduction has been a strategy of leftist organizing and key to an abolitionist future. Building a politics which acknowledges how layers of marginalization impact your health outcomes, and still goes “beyond just surviving to actually enjoying our lives and accounting for those health disparities,” is the goal.

This week’s Extra! Extra! COVID-19 takes a look at how the pandemic continues to harm vulnerable populations around the world, the raging fight in the US over how seriously to take any of this, the state of stimulus packages during the pandemic and a look at LGBTQ+ rights during the pandemic.

This week’s Extra! Extra! takes a look at the latest criminal justice news in the wake of more police brutality and the Chauvin ruling, more perspectives on capitalist exploitations after the failed Bessemer union vote, LGBTQ+ news and, of course, the pandemic.

I am (was?) dating the Tenderqueer from “Dykes and Their Emotional Support Albums” who listens to Phoebe Bridgers and they haven’t texted me back since right before Christmas. Did I have it coming?

The trailer for Monica Raymund’s queer murder mystery series is here, Michelle Obama and Julie Andrews will read comforting stories to you, Queen Latifah’s chatting about her lady crushes, and Atomic Blonde 2 is in the works.

Valerie and Meg look back at Critical Role’s gayest moments in 2020 because queer D&D is their favored terrain.

I don’t think it matters much whether Avatar: The Last Airbender is “respectful” of Asian culture. I think the show is racist, and also I like it. I’m interested in what we do with the sense of agency it gives us, how it allows us to critique the structures that exist and envision our own worlds.

The transcript for the June Autostraddle Town Hall is now available!

If casual dating is a thing you want, you can do it! I believe in you / us / our ability to not get married on the third date.