I’m on the mountain this week, so please enjoy the following smut.

Getting comfortable talking about sex, being able to defend your relationship, a conversation about BDSM and play and more.

Learning to masturbate as a trans woman, a dildo shaped like a gun, the Girl Sex 101 book, a field trip to a sex shop and more.

Welcome to Poly Pocket, a new series showcasing polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous relationships. Here’s how a married kinky butch/femme couple does poly.

Giving orders is more than the words coming out of my mouth. It’s the tone of voice I use, the eye contact, the confidence, the ease with which I speak.

Buying lube, being submissive, tweeting porn, (not) blaming your bad relationship with a person on your good relationship with your phone and more.

We’ve got alpacas, blood oaths, mozzarella sticks and so much more!

A dildo with ashes in it, better sex ed (and whether it should include porn), exercise orgasms and more.

Problems with the Feminist Porn Awards, mandatory LGBT sexuality- and gender-related education for everyone (and what happens in abstinence-based sex ed classes), poly dating and more.

How to ask for things in bed, relationships and money, developing a kinky identity, why people make so many noise complaints about loud sex and more.

It’s that time again! For the EPIC ENORMOUS gift guide in which all of us tell you what we want and then you go get the things for somebody else.

Let’s talk about our favorite queer characters on television and their (possible, probable) favorite Pleasure Chest sex toys!

Your next community gallery is here! Come gaze upon nearly 170 queer bedrooms of our lives, and the queers who queer them. Safe for work, more or less!

Types of libidos, healing crystal dildos, an open relationship comic and more.

“There’s really nothing like thinking about social justice while rubbing your clit.”

I don’t even know what materials research is. (Please don’t tell me.)

Safer sex tips for trans women, being a kinky feminist, what you can learn at an orgy and more.

A new queer-run feminist sex shop, consent and its sexiness, knot practice and more.

We all know that you’ve been wondering what signs all your Autostraddle favorites are. Maybe you want to see how compatible you are with us? Maybe you want to see how compatible we are with each other? Well, here you go!

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