Planning your first threesome? Here’s how to do it.

“I don’t know why I watched it, I guess maybe I wanted to get destroyed again and Netflix didn’t exist yet. I feel like my entire generation will never recover from this film.”

How sexting can help with multiple areas of your sexuality, how kinky people are less likely to victim-blame, the rise of STIs and more.

Counterfeit sex toys, the secret history of graham crackers and masturbation, and some smut just for you.

Lez celebrate the Shi/Shi Union and these eight other sex toys designed and recommended especially with your lesbian sex needs in mind!

It’s truly magical when you can find a novel with lesbian or bisexual or queer characters that speaks to you and tells a damn good story.

It’s time for part two of our series on what queer women and trans people are talking about when they talk about tops, bottoms and switches. Today we are taking your love ON TOP.

Victorian ideas about sex, cranberry juice and UTIs, whether it’s time to have sex or not right now and more.

Everything you need to know about choosing the right dildo for strap-on lesbian sex.

*Law and Order sound* these are our stories — Autostraddle staffers share how they personally identify (or don’t!) and why.

Everything you need to know about picking out a strap-on harness.

Today we’re using our sex survey data to talk about switches and also about those of you who identified as NONE OF THE ABOVE. Which is fine!

Why people love spanking, why prop 60 is bad, why being a badass and a bottom is not a contradiction, why it’s hard to come out as non-monogamous and more.

Spanking, kink and mental health; the future of sex and technology; what happens to sex as you age (it gets better); forced orgasms and more.

From the ostensibly refined collections like coins and stamps to the esoteric like taxidermy, there’s a wide world of stuff to gather out there! That said, most of us just own very specific types of books, but we thought you’d be into that too.

What makes an orgasm an orgasm, why crushes are fun, why queer porn is into safer sex (but you should still vote no on 60) and more.

The astrological signs most and least likely to be polyamorous, going down on a vulva, false balance in sex reporting, how to live past age 100 (by having lots of sex) and more.

The rise of nipple piercings, why winking is sexy, lingerie’s “nude” problem, hilarious theories on what causes lesbian sex and more.

“Look, I’m sorry! Every year the concept of pride sounds great in theory and then when it actually rolls around, it’s like New Years Eve on acid.”

An overview of everything going on with porn these days, how to have a secret relationship, why sex work should be decriminalized, where to learn more about submission and more.