Netflix and relationships, science finally learns about the clitoris (sort of), the We-Vibe “scandal,” what we owe to sex worker activism and more.

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“I used to lie about my age to get deals off the kids’ menu. Like, why would we pay an extra five dollars when we all know I’m about to get chicken tenders and it’s only an appetizer if I’m over twelve??”

How to have anal sex for the first time, queer love in the anthropocene, a free online sex conference, fetish wear and fashion and more.

The 2010s was an incredibly gay decade in music. Queer and trans musicians gained more visibility and success than ever before over the last 10 years! Here are the best 50 albums of the decade, according to me.

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Sex, drugs and music in your brain; watersports; coming out as a queer feminist stripper; and more!

“I need advice on caring for leather items. Like for example the leather strap-on harness I bought over a decade ago which has mostly been sitting around in a drawer.”

Finding love as a young trans woman, platonic sleepovers, your sex life and your work life, Estelle X on the future of queer representation and more.

Are they literary heavy hitters for which you’ll need a thesaurus and previous experience reading Nietzsche? No! Are they fun romps through a winter wonderland with queer characters? Yes! Are said characters often trapped in places and hate each other at first but then fall in love and there’s really no risk except that which makes the love even more defined? Yes!

How to love or fuck each astrological sign, every idea you ever wanted to hear about Tinder, dueling opinions on queer sex as resistance, homoerotic lingerie ads and more.

“My favorite thing in the world is when people ask if it’s a mood ring so I can say yes.”

And so we talked all night about the rest of our lives…

Safer sexting from a feminist perspective, everything about your ex, brains on BDSM, whether you need to wash your hands before fingering someone and more.

We’ve packed and unpacked these items through several apartments, hung them up with care, and regularly touch the sleeves contemplatively although today could be the day. Reader, it’s not going to be the day! The day is not coming. Yet we can’t let go of these garments. Why not!

Also, someone threw Kehlani a surprise party and Hayley Kiyoko is kiiinda NSFW.

Vintage gossip, challenging abstinence-only sex education, what a 24/7 BDSM relationship can look like, how credit card companies antagonize sex-related businesses and more.

“I’m adult and I’ve never cried over a haircut before and I don’t usually call my mom when I’m sad or frustrated or mad. She asked to see a photo of it. I sent her one and she asked me if the man hated queers, because this was clearly a hate crime.”

50 ways to ghost your lover, why you have a type, college hookups and early sexuality, embracing asexuality, “pornographic vending machines” and more.

A new dating app that lets you meet people who hate the same stuff you do; BDSM as moments of holding intensity; mental illness and dating; the most popular time to have morning sex; and more.