In a new art installation, Los Angeles-based photographer Maggie West, who specializes in experimental technicolor lighting and whose work increasingly critiques still-rigid contemporary ideas about gender and sexuality, worked with 40 women subjects — including Stephanie Beatriz, Nikki Hearts, Gaby Dunn, Jazzmyne Robbins, Isis King and more — to do just that.

The first statement of the Relationship Anarchy Manifesto is that “Love is abundant,” so why don’t we start there? Love is abundant. What kind of love do you want to create in your life?

We’ve got a good mix of tunes here this month: some hip-hop and EDM if you’re ready to bounce off that winter chill, some intense vibes and chill folk if you still want to hibernate for a bit — and of course a bunch in between.

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Whether gaydar is a thing, a new podcast that lets you listen in on couples therapy sessions, trans performers in mainstream porn, and more.

What type of love addict are you? How one woman’s disability impacted her queer dating life, popular sex toys by state, challenging fatphobia and more.

Mostly: “Why???” Also, why waiting for a crush to text back is the worst, why going to weddings is also the worst, self-sabotage, thinking through different relationship styles and more.

Uhauling the right way (involves waiting until you’re actually ready), using a fidget spinner as a sex toy, pubic hair portraits, and more.

How to take perfect naked selfies, why people like masochism, how much sex (some) people are having, seeing the same faces on dating apps over and over and more.

Even the most “accessible” queer fashion can feel intimidating when you only see it on celebs – that’s why we’ve assembled real-life queers to show you how real people are wearing wardrobe staples and celeb-inspired fashion. Today: gay boots!

Your late 20s/early 30s are thought by many to mark your Saturn Return, when Saturn circles back around to the placement it was in when you were born, and generally fucks everything up. Here’s how that went for us!

How to get over your breakup, what even are the sex bases, a new collection of trans erotica, why anal is awesome and more.

The Adipositivity Project, accessing your own pleasure, how to bring up safer sex, how to get over sex-related hang-ups, new theories on oxytocin in relationships, lots of nipples, and more.

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Whether or not period syncing is allegedly a lie, the secret lives of hot people, aftercare for everyone, how to have casual sex, how to win at relationship fight club and more.

How to practice feminism in relationships, a vibrator for data nerds, some side-effects of orgasms, embracing change in long-term relationships, how to sext like the Victorians and more.

Where to have public sex, how many dating apps you should be on, whether sex is better high or drunk, how your sex life relates to your masturbation life and more.

“I used to lie about my age to get deals off the kids’ menu. Like, why would we pay an extra five dollars when we all know I’m about to get chicken tenders and it’s only an appetizer if I’m over twelve??”

The 2010s was an incredibly gay decade in music. Queer and trans musicians gained more visibility and success than ever before over the last 10 years! Here are the best 50 albums of the decade, according to me.

How to spank someone, how to not be an asshole, why double-ended dildos suck, the zodiac sign you should never date, Tyrannosaurus rex sex and more.