The Tumblr and Facebook bans on sexuality-related photos and words, a photo series about healing through queer BDSM, how to consciously choose boundaries and more.

“Sometimes winning the switch fight meant kind of losing. When you were both switches, though, everybody won no matter the outcome. It all came down to pride and play.”

“I want you to know that three different people in my life sent me this video the day it dropped. I have not been the same since.”

Being conscientious makes you better at lesbian sex or any sex; what commitment-phobia is actually about; and cuffing season is cancelled, sorry not sorry.

“I picked up the tentacle attachment and clicked it into place. For a moment, nothing happened – then, the tip began to move, seeking out something to touch, and the entire shaft lit up with sensation.”

Let us be thankful, today and all days, for butts. The possibilities for butt play and pleasure seem almost endless — not only inside, but also outside! This guide walks beginners to impact play through slappers, crops, and light paddles and floggers, helping you find the perfect match for you and your butt (or someone else’s).

What if we all dated but didn’t text constantly or at all? Plus: stop making sex about the orgasms, how to talk dirty during sex, finding queer asexual intimacy and more.

The science on cuffing, bad patterns from astrological signs, moving on when something doesn’t work out, why you should use the word “vulva” when you’re talking about a vulva, and more.

The Autostraddle store is full of some of the best gay merch you’ll ever lay your little gay eyes on.

“I had a kind of dirty dream about you. Do you want to hear about it?” You laugh, and fuck, that sound twists itself inside my chest like a fist. I want to make you laugh more. Your voice drops, somewhere between a whisper and a quake. “It started with me kissing you.”

She stared at the camera as she slowly took off her dress; she liked the way Hank looked at her through the screen, his mouth parted, his eyes wide. She could hear his breathing, and she loved the way he gasped when she did anything that made him particularly proud. FaceTime sex was full of its own cues and rhythms. It was hot.

“Marry me so we can live in a tiny house!”

Naomi is leaving scratches on my chest, grasping for anything to hold onto while she sits on my face.

How to make your queer sex life literally magic, even if it’s with your ex, who science says it’s fine to sleep with now.

How to get into anal, how to winterize a vagina, why couples who post a lot on social media are probably doomed, why weird sex is good sex and more.

Here is a beginner’s guide to sending really hot sexts to your casual date, your girlfriend, and every babe in between. You’re welcome.

How to be good at sex. Plus what it’s like wearing latex, what it’s like being a unicorn, cuffing season by astrological sign, the feminist history of nudes in nature and more.

A suggestion on how to best use DST; why you can’t be ghosted on an app; divorce cake; why breakups are good for you; and more.

Why and how to set boundaries in any type of relationship. Plus, don’t date people who are ambivalent about you; how to take good nudes; how to know whether you’re ready to date again and more.

Welcome to Home Alone for the Holigays! Where our writers welcome you to spend the day with them virtually and live-tweet one of their favorite holiday films. Come kick it with Carolyn, watch Oceans 11 and escape into their sleepy Solstice.