In short, if you know, you know: fat sex is church. Here are some of the positions that have taken me there when I knew I needed to be lifted in prayer.

Tomorrow’s #NetflixWalkout, how literary gatekeepers can advocate for Black trans women, your weekly JoJo Siwa on DWTS, and the newest Ken Doll is wearing a seashell chest harness. Yes. I said that.

Queer BDSM and leather are central to Pride and don’t let anyone trying to sanitize all non-normative sexuality tell you otherwise. Plus, a new California bill could protect sex workers who report crimes, how to look after a vagina in summer and more.

Sloppy exits, queer porn director Shine Louise Houston on why porn is just another genre, the secret level of KonMari IS people, and more.

If you’re looking for a double-ended dildo, the Share Lite is an excellent option, but it absolutely does not stay in place without a harness.

Morning masturbation for anxiety (and fun!), dating in a new city, summer flings, algorithmic harassment and more.

What to do with your hearing aid during sex, how to use astrology to improve your relationships and more.

A bookstore employee who’s crushing on her hot, older boss, finally tells her how she feels (and finds out how her boss feels, too)! “Our moans were call and response, our bodies constellations.”

I still love service, but strapping for the first time expanded my very definition of the word.

A French kissing refresher, censored queer sex ed, ballon fetishes, masturbating without using your hands and more.

Sometimes it’s hard to focus on being in your body, how to get into impact play, PornHub might acquire NSFW Tumblr and more.

“It’s not about causing the most pain or smacking as hard as I can. It’s about getting a reaction out of you and guiding you gently, but firmly, to your limit.”

Are your straps proudly on display or tucked away for a ::ahem:: rainy day?

Very Realistic or Wildly Fictional, Which style strap is calling your name?

Do you get a new strap for each partner or do you say “Baby…just boil it”?

Are you gonna let them watch you strap up or are you a “BRB” kinda babe?

Should you play suck and blow or what’s the point?

Do you only need one strap or is variety truly the spice of life?

It’s the age-old queer question — Are you strapping or nah?

“Wow, I’m hot, I want to make out with me.”