By now I’m sure you’ve read Vanessa’s gut-wrenching goodbye essay (or selectively not-read so you can pretend she’s staying forever). In her most on-brand moment ever, Vanessa made us all cry barrels and barrels of tears, so now we all have to listen to Sad Lesbian Music so we get as close to inhabiting her brain as possible. To help you out, here is some music to listen to as you weep softly into your tea. It includes the most overwrought songs I could think of from an actual going-away mix CD I made Vanessa earlier and also some hit songs from my go-to breakup mixes that fit tonally if not thematically. Anyway. Here are some songs that make crying feel normal.
So You Read Vanessa’s Essay
Great Big Plans
But I Do
How to Be Alone (Sideways Sessions Version)
Whisper
Free – Ingrid Michaelson
Divided (Live)
Overseas Now
I Know You Will
The Story
Comfort Me
My Heart Is Split – Vienna Teng & Kait Kerrigan
They Can’t Take That Away From Me
Still Hurting
July 25, 2007
Montezuma
All My Little Words
As I Am
Waterfalls/She Keeps Me Warm – Marni Kellison & The A-Camp Family Band
Go Slow
I Miss You
Want to suggest a playlist theme? Hit Stef up and someone on the team might make it for you.
thank you graceling
I do what I can
Autostraddle, stop being so perfect.
Autostraddle, never stop being perfect.
(fixed it for you)
there’s nothing wrong with rocking slowly, head tucked against your knees, glass of wine in hand on a monday night. totally normal and ok.
Or curling up and burying your face in the scruff of your dogs neck, letting the fur dry your tears…right?
Between this virtual see-you-later and navigating LDRs I’d say that crying and wine is appropriate. Also, a closing scene just played out in my head Jenny Owen Youngs style. Thanks Grace
Jesus Christ, what are you trying to do to me?? I think I’ll have to open the Christmas rum now…
A+ Grace.
There’s a playlist on this website to help us process our emotions about another post on this website.
This is why I love Autostraddle.
Haha. It’s so true. I think this is one of the only situations where it’s okay for any human to say “that’s so gay”
So. Much. Processing.
<3
That’s so
Raventrue.This is perfection.
Anyone else feel like they need a hug?
You had me at “Still Hurting”. Then I read “instrumental”. I’ll be over here, in a corner, crying.
This is just so perfect. You know the way to my heart.
jesus h christ on a cracker hoo boy
Vanessa is leaving and I am going through letting go of someone personally. I will cry about both simultaneously while eating vegan ice cream and listening to this wonderful medley of wondefulness.
as soon as i finish listening to this about 100x i am going to listen to this playlist about 100x and plot my escape
Way to make me cry before even pressing play, Graceface
i can’t believe you made this. i love you so much. i love all of you so much. <3
Girl, the world is serious about you.
Oh God, that version of Divided kills me every single time!
ps “all my little words” is one of my favorite songs that i had forgotten about. thank you for magically putting that back in my life.
This is the perfect tribute.
Well, this or some really profound Buffy the Vampire Slayer quote.
“A day without an autopsy is like a day without sunshine.”
(Grace is better at this)
“I think this line’s mostly filler!”
…best leave this to Grace.