Results for: Feel good
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You Need Help: How Do I Tell If I’m a Butch Cis Woman or a Trans Non-Binary Person?
If I could tell everyone how to differentiate between gender expression feels and gender feels, I’d be Sovereign Ruler of Gender and maybe things would be easier, but probably also a lot less fun.
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Tempted to Check on Your Ex? Check on Someone Else’s Ex Instead!
More than a few people have been tempted to reach out to their ex as social distancing measures have ramped up. More than a few have acted on that temptation. That impulse might be coming from the right place, but, friends, it’s time to knock if off.
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You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Being Monogam-ish With My Bi Girlfriend?
“Right off the top, it’s crucial for me to say this: being monogamous and being bisexual are not mutually exclusive. This is a really problematic stereotype that has to go, like yesterday.”
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You Need Help: So Your Best Friend Is a SWERF
If you are out to your friend, or are thinking of coming out to her, and she still holds fast to her SWERF-y beliefs even after you explain how it hurts you, then you have one final choice to make: Stay, or go.
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You Need Help: Trusting Yourself in a New Relationship After Early Attachment Trauma
Possibly your trauma history is being triggered out of context in this relationship – but maybe it’s not. YOU are the expert, no matter what your trauma history is.
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You Need Help: How To Be A Trans Lesbian
Make sure to be kind and generous to yourself, give yourself plenty of time to process all of these important feelings, and don’t rush it!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #8: Coming Out to Your Kid, Casual Hookups Galore, and So Much More!
This Month: Proper protocol for casual sex with strangers, combating internalized fatphobia, lots of trans feelings, and how to apologize when its 100% your fault. Plus, what to do when it’s time to divorce him and come out already!
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You Need Help: Getting Kinky On A Budget
You’re in luck — kinky sex requires nothing but two (or more) bodies and a little imagination.
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You Need Help: Are There Any Cheap Strap-Ons?
You may have to drop some cash for a toy that will last for more than one thrust.
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You Need Help: Closeted Girlfriends, Pregnant Butches, Straight Weddings and More
Our fundraiser perk super special You Need Help is here!
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Into the A+ Advice Box #7: Gender Neutral Parent Names, So Many Questions about Crushes, and More!
Highlights include: going down while wearing a nose ring, surviving the United States as a queer immigrant, living on the same college campus as your ex, and also how to perfectly time your break up. That’s just the beginning!
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Y’All Need Help #27: But Back to YOU
A ruined friendship, body hair at work, coming out a little later when you’re about to marry a dude, and a frank conversation about assault. We really can have it all.
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You Need Help: Navigating Aggression, Desire and Gender in Dating
You don’t need to measure up to any of the things you’ve been taught are the “right” ways to be as a sexual being. There is no way to do sexuality “right” by any objective, external standard.
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You Need Help: Finding a Therapist for the First Time
Therapy is your place to be all about YOU. It’s your place to be safe, vulnerable, and authentic, in order for your to learn about yourself. It’s never too early to start practicing how to prioritize yourself and your needs.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #6: Being Out at Work, Surviving “Bisexual FOMO,” and More!
Real life worries from readers like you! Including: coming out at any age, getting comfortable with butt sex, and so many questions about moving! Get ready! It’s a party!
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You Need Help: You’re Not Sure If You’re a Boy and Gender Is Hard
“A lot of the narrative about gender questioning at large is about tragedy, about what we lose. I encourage you (even though I know it’s challenging) to think about your gender from a different angle. What makes you feel affirmed?”
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Into the A+ Advice Box #4: Non-Monogamy, Wanting What You Can’t Have, Yearning to Flee the Suburbs and More
We’re back with more questions than ever! And our team is here to give you advice on things like: sexy underwear for masculine-of-center folks, breaking sexual tension with a friend, how to move on from your one true love, how to get out of a professional rut and more!
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Into The A+ Advice Box #3: Summer Hookups, Bisexual Sadness and Gender Feelings
We’ve got 29 gorgeous questions and like 100 answers, so if you need help and you asked for it, you might find it in here. Casual hookups, breakups, threesomes, gender uncertainty, dating a co-worker, letting her down easy and so much more!
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You Need Help: You Don’t Know What To Do With Your Clit
Every body has a history; yours doesn’t preclude you from pleasure. Go forth and jam!
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You Need Help: How to Be More Assertive (or, When to Clap Back at Men)
It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends.