Results for: Feel good
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You Need Help: Why Do I Keep Crushing on Straight White Guys?
The dynamic between white men and Asian partners is uncomfortable. There’s always a worry that they’re interested in what you represent, not who you are.
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You Need Help: Are There Exercises For Better Finger Sex?
Stretching can certainly prevent your muscles from getting sore, but focusing on your posture and form will give you the best finger sex results.
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#PolyamoryProblems: Opening Your Relationship 101
Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you I’m here to tell you the things that will hopefully make your transition into polyamorous relationships much smoother.
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You Need Help: My Partner and I Have Different Sex Drives
You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.
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You Need Help: My Friend Has a Crush on Me
“She promised not to make things awkward between us, since she knows I’m not available, and hoped it wouldn’t make things awkward on my end – but here’s the problem. It is awkward!”
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You Need Help: Balancing Financial Security and Moral Bankruptcy
Doing something positive for the world is a constantly moving target.
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You Need Help: A Non-Binary Woman Working Through the Gender Feels
“Sometimes, when we allow ourselves to open a door, to open a possibility, the weight of that possibility and that choice is damn heavy – and overwhelming.”
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You Need Help: How Do I Stop Getting Emotionally Attached to My Pandemic Crush?
Part of decentering romantic relationships from our lives, part of being independent, part of seeking a kind of individuality that cisheteropatriarchy denies, has to include removing a value judgement from these very things.
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You Need Help: Should I Cut Off My Racist Dad?
My family is part of the problem, but if I choose to just ignore this fact, do I become part of the problem too?
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You Need Help: Should I Move in With Someone I Used to Date?
Moving in with a former sweetie might sound cute, queer and emotionally mature, but you better have a very good reason to take on the challenge.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #9: Supporting Your Local Bisexual, Getting Your Girlfriend to Talk to You, and More!
First of all: Clean your sex toys! Also: homophobia at your day job, supporting your friend when they leave an abusive relationship, and how to start dating when… you’ve absolutely never dated before.
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You Need Help: Should I Get Back Together With My Ex During the Coronavirus Pandemic?
During a time like this, the impulse to want your ex is like the impulse some may have to want their mom. It’s carnal.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #10: Is She Straight or Into You? Can You Dress Gay? and More!
Be the cool queer cousin you wished for as a kid, the polite way to turn someone down, sex is still great without an orgasm, creating your own queer community when you feel alone in the world, and 20 other questions from everyday readers like you!
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Into the A+ Advice Box: Quarantine Special Edition
Help! Your girlfriend is quarantined three hours away, your roommate’s partner moved into the apartment during the shut down without your consent, dying your hair before that next work Zoom call, handling an overwhelming group chat, and what to do when you are so alone!
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You Need Help: Why Do I Miss My Terrible Ex?

When relationships end, we might feel angry or wistful or hurt. Giving ourselves space for all of those feelings is how we bust through the pain and turn it into growth. 

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You Need Help: How Do I Know if I’m Bisexual or a Lesbian and Find Community?
There’s who you’re physically/romantically attracted to, and then there’s who you want to date, and then there’s who you want to sleep with — and all of these can be different things, all of which can also change! Yet we’re expected to align under a single label.
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You Need Help: Is My Friend Flirting With Me? Do I Want Them to Be?
“Should I initiate a conversation with them about our relationship to see if they want more than a friendship? I’m afraid of embarrassing myself/making it awkward/losing the friendship.”
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You Need Help: Stop Gaslighting Yourself
What would it feel like to move forward with curiosity, rather than relying on the comforting familiarity of self-doubt?
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You Need Help: Will I Ever Get Over My First Ex or Is Closure a Myth
Closure is a choice — often one you have to make on your own. And it’s absolutely okay to not be friends with an ex.
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You Need Help: Is It Time To Break Up With My Therapist?
What kinda of things are okay to expect from therapy? Should I switch therapists?