Results for: Feel good
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You Need Help: How Do I Stop Focusing on My Ex in Shared Queer Spaces?
Remind yourself that your life is your life and that you don’t need validation from her.
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You Need Help: How Do I Break Up During a Pandemic?
My advice for folks who KNOW that they want to break up with their partner is almost always the same: Break up with your partner!
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You Need Help: My Partner’s Pandemic Practices Suck and I Want to Break Up
Transmitting a deadly virus doesn’t exactly say “I love you,” so it makes sense that this particular conflict is bringing up big questions about your relationship.
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You Need Help: How Do I Survive My First Breakup to Stay Friends on the Other Side?
Moving on doesn’t mean forgetting the past, but it does require some space to let your brain and heart breathe.
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You Need Help: I Just Came Out, and I Feel Weird
Coming out isn’t a magic trick that makes us suddenly understand ourselves completely.
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You Need Help: I Never Imagined I’d Live Past 20. Now What?
Babe, I promise you’re right on time. In 2020 I can’t be sure of hardly anything, but I am sure that you are good. You belong right where you are, and you get to do the messy work of finding out what’s next.
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You Need Help: How Do I Stop Thinking About the Ex Who Cheated on Me?
Betrayal burrows into brains. When cheating comes to light, there’s a tendency to obsess over the minute details. You’ll replay things in your head, wonder how they were able to get away with certain things, and sometimes even be hard on yourself for it.
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You Need Help: How Do I Come Out as Trans at Work?
Here are some tips to come out at work as safely as possible, and it requires a little bit of preparation in and out of the office.
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You Need Help: How Can I Help My Partner With COVID Anxiety?
When your anxiety stems from a valid concern about a real and terrifying threat, it’s hard to draw the line between reasonable fear and full-blown panic – here are some concrete tips for managing COVID anxiety.
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Into the A+ Advice Box #11: Meeting the Parents, Department Drama, Friend Breakups and More!
Recovering after being ghosted, dealing with queer tokenism, knowing if you’re a top or a bottom, straight people are STILL not ok, and did that organizer ask you for an organizing coffee or a COFFEE coffee??
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You Need Help: Your Partner Won’t Give You Space
She’s isolating you from the things that make you a capable, confident, well-rounded person, and when you adhere to her rules, you’re enabling codependency.
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You Need Help: How Do I Become the Protagonist of My Own Life?
Who were your fictional heroes? What were the stories that were told to you in the songs that you played on loop? Who were the artists who sang them, and how did their lives – so close to fiction anyway, by virtue of Hollywood tabloid culture – create stories for you? What did you imagine for yourself, as a teen?
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You Need Help: Is It Okay to Date My Ex’s Friend?
No matter how cautious we try to be, we are going to hurt people. The question then becomes: when is it worth it?
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#PolyamoryProblems: How Do I Know When It’s Time To Break Up?
The idea of breaking up, and/or transitioning your relationship to platonic as somehow a failure or throwing something away is one of those pesky ideas we need to unlearn.
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You Need Help: Was I Ghosted Or Am I Their Backup?
The pandemic has made ghosting easier for those who might otherwise act like mortals.
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You Need Help: I’ve Never Had a Date and I’m So Lonely
The bad news is the answer to loneliness is not necessarily found on dating apps. The good news is you can meet people other ways.
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You Need Help: My Mom Is Offended I Didn’t Come Out To Her Sooner
Your mom is making this about herself, and it’s not fair to you.
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You Need Help: How Do I Get My Best Friend to Go to Therapy?
“Here is the good news—your best friend does have a therapist! Here is the bad news—that therapist is you!”
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You Need Help: Is It Normal To Be Happy In a Relationship and Still Think About an Ex?
Time won’t necessarily “fix” it, but the more distance you have from the relationship and the more time you invest in healthy coping mechanisms, the less destabilizing these thoughts will feel.
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You Need Help: Can I Tell My Poly Roommate Not to See Her Partners Because of Coronavirus?
It becomes increasingly difficult to ask individuals to make huge personal sacrifices, at great cost, when it is clear the government is doing almost nothing to move us toward a different world.