How to Behave at Boarding School
“Boarding school teaches self-possession repeatedly and thoroughly, because it teaches you how to be in control when you’ve made every effort to be out of it.”
You Can Leave Your Partner Who Scares You
“I’ve been dating this person for four years who is genuinely the light of my life but has some anger management issues. Though they would never, ever turn that anger towards me, it still terrifies me just witnessing it. They are aware of it, but I don’t think they’ll ever go to therapy about it. They don’t really want to even though they acknowledge it’s a problem.”
Princess Bubblegum and Marceline Smooch On-Screen, Live Happily Ever After in the “Adventure Time” Series Finale
Adventure Time’s hour-long finale, “Come Along With Me,” was everything I hoped for (and more) — it was weird and sad and silly and funny and harrowing and so quietly profound I’ll be thinking about it probably forever.
Pop Culture Fix: Kristen Stewart’s Screenwriting Debut Includes Line “Her Hand In My Wide-Open Cunt” and Other Stories
Topics include Kristen Stewart’s take on women’s sexuality, “The Purge” kicking off with a bisexual threesome, Hayley Kiyoko’s ModCloth campaign, Lily Allen’s “seeing female sex workers” phase, “Law and Order: Hate Crimes,” Cynthia Nixon is not Miranda, Lauren Jauregui’s NYLON cover and so much more!
9 Tips for Surviving Grad School With Mind and Body Intact
It’s easy to get caught up in how difficult grad school is, and to use that difficulty as an excuse to slack off on taking care of yourself, but the skills you build now will follow you into your career. It’s more important than ever to really make time and space for YOU, and I don’t just mean bubble baths.
Oh, Hey! It’s Alyssa #55: Conflation
Why push each other down when we all need some heavy lifting?
No Filter: Hayley Kiyoko Stars in My Imaginary Remake of “Children of the Corn”
Come for the Lindsay Lohan awkwardly dancing in Mykonos content but stay for the picture of Janelle Monáe biting coyly into an olive.
VOTE NOW in Autostraddle’s Inaugural Gay Emmys!
The Academy of Television Arts & Sciences — like Hollywood itself, and mainstream TV criticism — continues to be dominated by a voting block of mostly straight white men. So, for the first time ever, we’ve decided to host our own Autostraddle TV awards to coincide with the Emmys.
Squirting 101: Soak Up the Pleasure, Soak Up the Fun
The thing is, there’s no RIGHT way to squirt or to get someone to squirt. There’s no one trick that gets every person, without fail, to magically ejaculate like a pro. That said, here are some places you can get started in trying to hosting your very own water show.
The Nothing Between Your Legs
“She’s a tomboy,” your mother says, frustrated. “I’m sure she’ll grow out of it when she gets interested in boys.” “More dolls,” repeats Mrs. Morris. They plan to doll this little problem out of you.
“In Intimate Detail” Is the Singular Guide to Lingerie – and It’s Queer-Inclusive
“I’ve had conversations with brands where they’ve been very explicit about who their customers weren’t. They weren’t plus size people. They weren’t queer people. They weren’t people of color. And those attitudes affect me as well as a black, queer woman.”
For Your Consideration: Ignoring Someone You Run Into
Is it cold to ignore or avoid someone from your past when you cross paths? Maybe! Does it also often feel a whole lot better than engaging? Hell yeah!
“Wynonna Earp” Episode 307 Recap: Haught for Sheriff
Wynonna gets to know her sister’s girlfriend a bit better as her and Haught run around town getting into all kinds of hijinks.
Don Draper vs Jenny Schecter: The Sexist Battle of the TV Anti-Heroes
Even now, almost a decade after The L Word’s final season, with LGBTQ+ representation at unprecedented heights, we still hold Jenny Schecter up as our ultimate villain. Her name is a curse, a swear, a shortcut for derision. She is a model of bad behavior.
Queering the Jewish Holidays: How I Celebrate Rosh Hashanah & Yom Kippur
Apples! Honey! Vision boards! Fasting! Resolutions! Let’s talk about how we celebrate the Jewish High Holidays.
Monday Roundtable: Breaking Up and Fucking Up
Just some of the many ways we ruin our lives after a breakup.
Sunday Funday Is Excited for Dream Daddy Comics
A Black lesbian couple is changing the Palm Springs gay scene, a portrait series celebrating older trans people, the DNC adopted language to include non-binary people and more!
NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Quantifying Desire
Don’t sleep with your ex. Plus the age at which self-esteem peaks, how to get comfortable with your junk, top sexual fantasies and more.
Femme Brûlée: Blueberry Skillet Cornbread
“It’s amazing what baking can do for a bad day, especially when there’s something as tantalizing as blueberry skillet cornbread waiting at the finish line.”
September 2018 Queer Horoscopes: You Already Know How to Clean Up Your Retrograde Messes
Make peace with uncertainty in all your relationships, and trust that Virgo season will help you achieve some needed clarity.