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The Gay B C’s of Sex: L Is for Lesbian Bed Death

Why did the term “lesbian bed death” stick around in the queer imagination? Well, it’s catchy. And it’s scary!

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I’m a Bisexual Woman With Genital Herpes — Here’s What’s in My Sex Bag

After my diagnosis, I thought my sex life was over. I was wrong.

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You Need Help: Will I Be A Virgin Forever?

There are a lot of harmful messages in our society about lack of experience, specifically about virginity. But you have so many things to offer, things which are far more vital to a good experience than whether you’ve had partnered sex before.

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Needle Play Brings Me Back into My Body Over and Over Again

Editor’s Note: This essay includes descriptions of piercings with hypodermic needles and blood in a BDSM context and brief references to self-harm. Needles are an edge. They encompass many spheres and much stigma, reminding us that we’re flesh sacks filled with fluid a mere pinprick can pierce. IV drug users and those who are tattooed […]

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We Sat On Cakes to Find Our Joy

After months of holding ourselves back in order to keep ourselves and others safe from COVID, we were chasing abundance.

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Intimate Geographies: An Old-Fashioned Lesbian Melodrama

This is a story where I’m not the protagonist.

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Intimate Geographies: I Didn’t Think I Deserved To Be Topped, I Was Very Wrong

Over and over, the universe has instructed me: ask for what you want. Over and over, I’ve refused.

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10 Ways to Celebrate Masturbation May

Give yourself a hand — it’s International Masturbation Month!

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Netflix’s “The Principles of Pleasure” Invites Us Out of Shame and Into the Light

Pleasure can be sexual, but it also doesn’t have to be. I think I could have a healthier relationship with sex and my body by defining what pleasure means for me, without the influence of sex and attraction.

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It’s Cake and Cunnilingus Day — Let’s Celebrate Accordingly!

I paired eight types of cakes with eight styles of cunnilingus to inspire your revelry.

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How I Navigate Sex as a Bisexual Woman With Vaginismus

You don’t have to try to “fix” your vaginismus if you don’t want to. I’m not hyped about doing it, personally.

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Muffing 101

For trans women who experience genital dysphoria, being penetrated in the front can be really meaningful.

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Sex Tips for When You’re Stranded in the Canadian Wilderness Post-Plane Crash With No Rescue Team in Sight

Do you really want to be that person who survived a plane crash and then died from putting a literal stick up their ass? No, you don’t.

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Positions for Fat Sex in All of Its Holiness

In short, if you know, you know: fat sex is church. Here are some of the positions that have taken me there when I knew I needed to be lifted in prayer.