Foolish Child #65: Valentine’s Day
Depends on what the “V” stands for…
You Need Help: Is It Possible to Repair a Relationship After a Consent Misstep?
“I’m worried the relationship is ruined before it even really got started. What should I do? Do I have to break up with her, or is there a way to work through this?”
Queered & Careered: 12 Ways to Cope at Work When You’re Just Not Feeling It
For those days when you wake up for work and a repeated round of “fuck this” is going through your head.
Basic Butch Style: The Perfect Coffee Date
I’m a big fan of coffee dates. When I think of my favorite coffee shops, my mind conjures up warmth and texture. Taking inspiration from that feeling, I put together two outfits, paying special attention to texture and flow.
Zaya Wade Is Trans and Loved: Dwyane Wade Shares 12-Year-Old’s Coming Out with Ellen
“I want to be referenced as she and her. I would love for you guys to call me Zaya.” Proud parent Dwayne Wade shares Zaya’s story. Sending our love to the family today!
Frisky Business: Talking with Independent Queer Harness Designer Emma Alamo
The babe behind the buckles is Emma Alamo — a queer creator, a recovering alcoholic, a proud power bottom and business owner with serious hustle. Emma welcomed me into her studio and talked about social media, body image and building a career selling bondage gear.
“Birds of Prey” Is the Chaotic Sparkly Queer Misandrist Comic Book Movie of My Dreams
With two on-screen queer women characters, “Birds of Prey” is an irate, sparkle laden, middle finger in the air to a society that otherwise cowers to the angry whims of men. Who the hell wouldn’t sign up for that?
Coyote Mommi Maria Bello Is Engayged to Superstar Chef Girlfriend Dominique Crenn
Maria Bello, best known to Autostraddle readers for playing Coyote Mommi Lil Lovell in the 2000 lesbian cinematic masterpiece Coyote Ugly, showed up at Elton John’s Oscar party last night with longtime girlfriend Dominique Crenn in tow and announced that they were no longer able to fight the moonlight.
Also.Also.Also: Janelle Monáe Reclaimed Flower Crowns as Queer Culture at the Oscars Last Night
Black femmes won Oscars weekend, starring: Janet Mock, Janelle Monáe, Angelica Ross, Billy Porter, and MJ Rodriguez! Also, links about why we still don’t believe survivors, moms starting a housing rights revolution, and more.
Danny Lavery on Queer Wanting, Difficult Experiences, and Oh Yes His New Book
Trying desperately to want less than what one truly requires — and the goodness that comes from giving up that ghost — is a prominent theme in “Something That May Shock and Discredit You,” Daniel Lavery’s new collection of essays, out Feb. 11.
I’m Not a Fabulous Queer
Being invisible is in some ways a privilege. QTPOC who are visible are subject to scrutiny at best and violence at worst. I don’t want to talk about visibility. I’m still ashamed of the lonely, aching part of me that longs for recognition.
Letter From The Editor: In Another World
You can’t win in a world not meant for you, so I’m offering up the In Another World Issue as my attempt at creating some other option. We’re presenting you with the ways that bright, thoughtful, ferocious people are creating their own space. Worlds within and outside of this slippery one, full of answers and questions and buoyant hope tunnels.
“To L and Back” L Word Podcast Episode 307: Lone Star With Mal Blum
Mal Blum pops in for this particularly hilarious episode of “To L and Back” as we officially begin the part of Season Three that makes us all want to slam our heads into the wall!
Oscars 2020: Two Lesbians Discuss the Very White, Very Straight, Very Male 92nd Academy Awards
“Okay so Christian Bale plays… Mr. Ferrari. And Matt Damon plays… Henry Ford?”
Sunday Funday Is Watching Feminist Films With Jurnee Smollett-Bell
Happy Sunday we’ve got awards coverage, movie reviews, remembering the suffragists, sober queer spaces, and pasta!
NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Solo Poly
More queers use dating apps compared to straights; disclose your strep as well as your STI before hooking up; bussy; sex stains; and more.
Six Key Takeaways From the 8th Democratic Presidential Debate
New Hampshire voters go to the polls in three days. From Elizabeth Warren demonstrating growth when talking about the issues that matter for people of color to Biden’s continued slip away from the pack, here six takeaways from Friday’s debate.
Raechel Anne Jolie on Class, Gender and Being a Rust Belt Femme
“I’ve come to embrace that ‘lack of decorum’ that I grew up in.”
Grease Bats: Speed Date
“A poorly organized night of chaos where you only have one minute to explain your interests, expectations, and what you’re looking for.”
Boobs on Your Tube: Sexy Superqueero Fight Alert on Black Lightning!
Plus updates on All American, the Bold Type, and it’s time you start watching Party of Five.