Raising Baby T. Rex: What Lies Between Us
“Do you feel like we’re drifting apart?” I asked.
Raising Baby T. Rex: The Art of Having A Good Time
Everything my toddler taught me about prioritizing play.
Raising Baby T. Rex: My Mommy Style Profile
I wouldn’t say I’ve escaped the Cult of Mommy completely. I’ve defined it for myself.
Raising Baby T. Rex: Mommies, Daddies, and Babies
There are no right or wrong answers in queer and trans parenting choices, just the decisions we make.
Raising Baby T. Rex: Goodbye Pull-Ups, Hello Three, Hello Love
“You have to wear pants to go outside.”
Raising Baby T. Rex: Airplanes, A-Camp and Abdominal Pain
Even though I didn’t get to experience A-Camp in the traditionally transformative way, I got an even deeper peek into the ways that this community is both very real and deeply caring.
Raising Baby T. Rex: That All-Consuming Love
I didn’t understand unconditional love until I met Remi.
My Diné Child Will Hunt, Bead and Everything in Between
“You girls are the talk of the ice-fishing derby!” I get that a lot. When we’re out hunting or fishing, my wife and I are frequently the only women (much less queer women) present.
Raising Baby T. Rex: Having It All Is a Big, Heteronormative Lie
What I’ve learned is that parents and moms especially, even cool radical-minded queer moms, even boss-lady moms with lots of confidence in their own abilities, really can’t escape the “working mom” BS.
Raising Baby T. Rex: Potty Training, Patience and Pride
It’s literally a social science experiment every day and we don’t have any control. That’s how it is with toddlers, I guess…
A Tale of Two Mommies (Or Who Wore the Maternity Pants?)
“She would have loved to carry our child. Would have met the body changes with joy. That she was physically barred from being pregnant did not make the situation easier. She hid it well. But now I understood why she looked forward to the birth with such clear-eyed intensity.”
Raising Baby T. Rex: Club Fawn, No Naps, and Reclaiming Procreation
Reclaiming queer procreation, dropping the last nap, stupid crows, Baby T. at A-Camp, and losta cute T. Rex pics.
Raising Baby T. Rex: Dinos Resist! A Guide to Raising a Little Activist
“What I’m saying is, if you’re sitting in the legislative chamber trying to hear the floor debate and someone’s kid starts crying or yelling “Baby Shark!” please be kind to them.”
Like the Other Kids
On top of how hard it is to be transgender in a cissexist world, it’s also really hard to be a child. It can be hard to have two moms in a heterosexist world. It can be hard to have a transgender mom. Put that all together, and I’m just one giant ball of anxiety who is frequently at a loss for the perfect way to help my child navigate the world.
“Just Treat Me Like Any Other Mother”: What Queer-Affirming Doulas Can Provide New LGBT Parents
For queer couples already facing marginalization in their lives and relationship before making the decision to become pregnant, the presence of a doula can be profound.
Raising Baby T. Rex: Terrifying Sharks for a Toddler Ocean Explorer
Remi loves the ocean so very much wow, baking cookies with a two-year-old, some very cute holiday-ish pics, having it all is a lie, #Cativan, and more Baby T. updates for your face!
Raising Baby T. Rex: Temper Tantrums and Dinner Dance Parties
Dealing with a toddler having a temper tantrum is a lot like putting out a fire, plus mom bod nudies, Remi’s fav song for dinner dancing, cat baby watch update, and more!
Raising Baby T. Rex: How We Learn “Good” and “Bad”
“Good” and “bad” in a very bad world, fall fun, toddler logic, echolocation, fall fun, adults-only Halloween, and a requested cat + baby update.
Raising Baby T. Rex: The Soft Underbelly of a Hard Femme Mama
I love how soft I am postpartum. It’s a reminder of how my body stretched and grew and changed to grow a tiny human. I didn’t know I could be that strong and that soft simultaneously. I didn’t know my softness could be my strength.
“Age-Appropriate” Sex Education Leaves LGBTQ Kids Behind
Models of sex education that focus on what is “age-appropriate” for children inevitably leave LGBTIQ youth in the dark about their own identities.