Cat Hollis founded Haymarket Pole Collective to create a place for Black sex workers to feel safe and to organize and advocate for their rights. “We’re oppressed as groups, not as individuals…The truth is that you might lift yourself up to a level with more agency, but that doesn’t remove your marginalization. And it doesn’t necessarily make it easier for people who come after you.”
I wish I could go back and show this film to my baby gay self.
No matter how cautious we try to be, we are going to hurt people. The question then becomes: when is it worth it?
Not a great day for queer TV!
You know what? We need this. It’s been a helluva year.
Bex Taylor-Klaus has joined a new ABC medical procedural, Pose is filming again (for now), how SNL and Kate McKinnon paid tribute to RBG, lesbians in Deaf U, and more!
Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you I’m here to tell you the things that will hopefully make your transition into polyamorous relationships much smoother.
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Also: how a Black lesbian took down a racist, pandemic-partying fraternity in the deep south, what NOT to do for all those queer migraines you’re getting, gender neutral greetings on airplanes, queer girls are taking over TikTok, and more!
Sometimes meditation is a euphemism for masturbation and sometimes it’s not. Also, a look inside a sex toy factor, what you need to know about NSFW subscription sites, and more
I need a distraction from the thing that’s distracting me.
Instead of a standard matchup preview, because that’s not really my thing, I thought we’d recap some of the out players on each team and what to watch for from each of them.
Everything is happening. And it’s happening FAST. We’re only 32 days away from Election Day. Thirty-two days until, hopefully, we trade this fight in for another one. Are you ready?
Friends, there is barely a month until the US election. Oh, certainly there is some despair and some grief, but most of all this playlist aims to soothe. I hope you find some solace in these tunes, like I do.
“I can confirm that it turns up when you search for lesbians on Netflix, but it does not turn up when you shout ‘LESBIANS!’ at your Roku remote.”
Join Riese, Carly, Mal Blum, Gaby Dunn, Brittani Nichols and Cerise Castle for an all-star livecast of our recording for The L Word Episode 509, “Liquid Heat”! (Yes that’s the one where everybody has sex.)
Making queer friends in quarantine, holding a candle for your ex, being out as bisexual at work, unpacking a past relationship with boundary issues, poly nesting feelings, roommates who make you feel like a fifth wheel, social media related envy in your creative community, and MORE! Become an A+ Member today to submit your own advice questions, get access to this twice monthly series, and keep Autostraddle going for everyone.
Even Parrots think we should defund prisons. Also: Storm Guard Sami Whitcomb Leaves WNBA Bubble to be with her wife during the birth of their first child (awww!), preparing for your annual seasonal depression, and what LGBT rights might look like under a Biden presidency.
While it might feel terrifying to dig into our own secrets with so many other things to worry about, this is a season for patient exploration, for deep introspection. What have you been hiding from? Where have you been longing for freedom, and what has been holding you back?
What do we feel our sexual IDs “mean” about us as “people”? Do they have overlaps with our sense of self outside of bed? Do we notice others assuming these things about us (or projecting them onto us)? If so, is that annoying or helpful? Do they get at authentic ways that our sexual dynamics are natural expressions of other parts of our personhood?