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I Miss Feeling Hot

My surgeon informed me that I’d have to spend the rest of Pride Month with my hair pulled back, ointment gooped on, and absolutely no hotness allowed.

Drew Burnett Gregory June 18, 2025 1 Comment
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Cowboy Clairvoyant’s Guide To Pulling Three Tarot Cards for Yourself

Cowboy Clairvoyant interprets two dreams and also provides a short guide to pulling three tarot cards for yourself.

Autumn Fourkiller June 16, 2025
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the team June 13, 2025
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The Polyamorous NYC Couple with a Daddy / Baby Girl Dynamic

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My Queer Friends Are Mean About How Skinny I Am

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the team June 6, 2025
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I Don’t Think You’re Stupid. I Just Think I Know More About Movies

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Drew Burnett Gregory June 5, 2025 6 Comments
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What If I’m Totally Fine with the Space Between Us?

Your mom wants to braid friendship bracelets and you want to disappear into adulthood. Also, we help a reader embrace queer romance novels!

the team May 30, 2025 5 Comments
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Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya, Christina Tucker and Drew Burnett Gregory
May 29, 2025 2 Comments
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I Suddenly Hate Aging and It Makes Me Feel Like a Bad Lesbian

I don’t know when I became a vain person, but I swear I used to be better. Becoming a competitive athlete in my thirties has not helped.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya May 28, 2025 18 Comments
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Sex/Life May 27, 2025
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Emet Ozar and Rachel
May 24, 2025 2 Comments
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the team May 23, 2025 4 Comments
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My trans story is no longer one of romantic rejection and yet these films are still where I project connection.

Drew Burnett Gregory May 22, 2025 2 Comments
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Dykes Discuss ‘The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives’

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Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Christina Tucker
May 20, 2025 6 Comments
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Autumn Fourkiller May 19, 2025 2 Comments
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Rebecca Goldstein and Rachel
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the team May 16, 2025 4 Comments
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