Results for: Feel good
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You Need Help: You’re Gay but Oh No You’re Falling for a Man, What the F*ck
“How does one successfully navigate such a dramatic shift in a long-held and cherished identity?! Is it possible to have relationships with men devoid of internalized homophobia, misogyny, etc? Is it worthwhile to tell this person how I feel — could I possibly expect anyone to navigate all this baggage with me?”
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You Need Help: Reacting to Misgendering in Public
“Why can’t I just let it roll off me? And do you think there’s a way to react that might make the situation a little less miserable for me?”
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You Need Help: Coming Out When Your Girlfriend Is Amazing but Your Family Super Isn’t
“I feel like I’m lying to my my parents, hiding part of myself, and disrespecting my girlfriend by constantly avoiding mentioning her or referring to her as my friend when my parents ask what’s going on in my life. Of course, I know coming out can be difficult in general, but I’m wondering if you have any advice for coming out in the context of a toxic family relationship? How can I best protect myself from the inevitable insults, yelling, and criticism while still being honest?”
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You Need Help: What Should You Do With Your One Wild and Precious Life?
Queer time moves differently than regular time; we’re on our own schedule; we exist outside the rigidity of the patriarchal space-time continuum.
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You Need Help: Talking to Your Family About Your Partner’s Pronouns
If they are feeling hurt by people who don’t want to use their pronouns or just by a long day of having to gender in the world, listen to them and ask how you can help ease the stress.
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You Need Help: People Are Nosy About Your Binder
What to do if your friends and family start asking about that new binder you’re wearing.
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You Need Help: How to Best Be There for Your Newly Out Asexual Friend
In which I talk to my asexual brother about what they wanted and what they did when they first came out as ace.
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You Need Help: 7 Highly Effective Habits of Dealing with Biphobes
Just kidding it’s not quite 7. They’re still good ones though.
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You Need Help Helping Your Parents: Cis People Teaching Cis Parents To Be Trans Allies
It will take time. It will take a lot of patience. It will be worth it.
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You Need Help: What’s My Label?
“We want these labels to tell us who we are and what we want because figuring out who we are and what we want in a big expansive lawless space is HARD.”
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You Need Help: Coming Out In Your Mid/Late 20s
The fact that you’re working through all this now doesn’t say anything negative about you or the way you moved through life for the past 24 years. What you did then was valid, and what you’re doing now is valid.
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You Need Help: I Came Out To My Mom (Again) And You Can, Too
“I cried on the plane. I realized, stark as night, clear as day, that the silence was killing me. Instead of moving through a moment, I was trapped inside of purgatory.”
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You Need Help: Where Do I Go From Here
“When you unearth one thing you didn’t know about yourself, it can be an opportunity to dive in and know all the things you were afraid to. It’s the scariest thing you’ll ever do and the most valuable.”
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You Need Help: You Fell In Love With A Girl and It’s Exploding Your Whole Life
So you fell in love with a girl and it upended your life with family, kids and religion. What now?
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You Need Help: On That Younger Possibly-Queer Human Who Might Need You
“I’m seventeen and I’ve already gone through my queer angst – and it kills me to see this kid alone almost all the time, they always look miserable and it reminds me of me a couple of years ago.”
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You Need to Help These Ten People Come Out
Girls are always asking me for advice on various coming out situations, and I don’t always know how to answer them. Perhaps you, dear reader, would like to take a swing at it?