View From The Top: We Don’t Need A Safeword
“I’m not saying the only time you should play with safewords is in consensual non-consent. But to me, it’s the only time they’re really necessary.”
Naughty Lesbian Scenes
Oh, it’s definitely hot in here. Because of ~*lesbians.*~
Bottoms Up: Greedy
“Submitting is something I do, not something done to me.”
View From the Top: Dominant Fantasy vs. Dominant Reality
I have to be willing to reveal the messy, intimate parts of my life to have this authority exchange really work 24/7. Otherwise, it just isn’t sustainable.
Bottoms Up: Sad, Solo, Submissive
Be the daddy you want to see in the world.
View From The Top: Wine and Pie and Collars
“I want my friends to know who I belong to now,” rife said. “I want everyone to know I am taken.”
Bottoms Up: Subspace Is Better Than Meditation
The more I experience subspace, the more I think that mindful living is possible for me.
View From The Top: Playing Through Depression
It’s almost impossible to master while grieving. When that grief turns into a depression, is it even M/s anymore?
Bottoms Up: Did My Feminist Ancestors Burn Their Bras For This?
I’ve worked hard to hold onto my independence, and here I was giving it up — to someone more dominant and more masculine. My feminist ancestors didn’t burn their bras for this. Except what if they did?
View From The Top: Giving Orders
Giving orders is more than the words coming out of my mouth. It’s the tone of voice I use, the eye contact, the confidence, the ease with which I speak.
Bottoms Up: Little Boi
Being in little space doesn’t feel like being a child again. It feels more freeing than my childhood ever was, and like something completely different.
View From The Top: Desire That Looks Like Mine
The possibility of finding our kink community gave me the courage to take another deep breath and open the door.
Bottoms Up: Nope That Word Is Not For Me
“I cannot wait to have a partner with whom I can explore consensual non-consent in a 24/7 lifestyle. But to be called a slave? In America?”
View From The Top: Coming and Crying; Master and Slave
“Master and slave — in consensual, intentional contexts — are the precise words for the cravings I have in my heart and gut to own, control, protect and nurture my partner.”
View From The Top: Power In Theory, Power In Practice
Sarah and I talked a lot about power in our relationship — who had it, who felt it, how it flowed between us. It wasn’t always smooth.
Bottoms Up: Why I’m A Bratty Bossy Bitch
Submitting is a weird dichotomy of knowing exactly what you want but putting someone else in control of giving it to you.
View From The Top: Polka Dots, Packing, and Protocol
We started to turn the top/bottom dynamics in our sex life into 24/7 dominance/submission. It was highly negotiated, mutually consensual, and extremely hot.
So You Want to Fuck an Able-Bodied Person
For the disabled among us, meet-cutes and the events that follow aren’t so simple to orchestrate. Need a refresher on the rules of engagement? There’s no need to go it alone!
Bottoms Up: My Time In The Dungeon
“I was on my ninth cigarette when the dom about to give me the most affirming experience I’d had as a sub came to stand next to me.”
View From The Top: Daddy
I wanted to hear her say it again. I wanted her to say it while we fucked, while I was inside her, while she kissed me, while she came. It felt right, it felt extraordinary, it felt entirely new.