Bottoms Up: I Dream Of Collars
I imagine being a collared submissive as a physical manifestation of my and my dominant’s commitment, a symbol around kinky folks and a public secret around vanilla ones.
View From The Top: I’ll Take That Risk, And That Knife Play
“He’d asked me about it before, saying it was something he’d always wanted. And now, he was quivering on the floor, looking up at me, handing me an open knife with both hands.”
Bottoms Up: Denial
I don’t always play to get off. Sometimes denial is exactly what I want.
You Need Help: Why Don’t I Like Going Down On My Girlfriend?
“I really really want to like going down on her, but I don’t. It feels overwhelming — the smell, the taste, the trouble breathing.”
View From The Top: Palette of Permission
In the beginning checking in all the time was useful. But after six months of it, Sarah was getting annoyed.
Why I’m Unapologetic About My Sensuality as a Black Trans Woman
“For me, as a Black Trans Woman, to find her body not only as something worthy and magnificent (as it is), but to find someone to share that magick with, may very well be one of the only moments she has to enjoy a trying and very taxing life — one that’s always trying to kill her.”
Bottoms Up: Ch-ch-changes
As my gender expression changes, so does who I’m attracted to.
View From The Top: From Physical to Psychological
“But when we changed the game a little, and added just a few little things, our play soared to new mountain summits I hadn’t even known we could reach, or let alone want.”
Bottoms Up: Kinky Resolutions
As I grow more into the submissive I want to be, I grow to love myself more.
View From The Top: Five Favorite Protocols
Within D/s relationships specifically, protocols are explicit, negotiated with the needs and best interests of everyone in mind, subject to change based on reflection and consent.
Bottoms Up: Holistic Masochism
“Holistic masochism recognizes that I’m not just a sex machine, but a whole person who has to exist before and after play.”
View From The Top: It’s Protocol
We thrive on these everyday tiny moments where we both get to be reminded of our agreed-upon power differential.
View From The Top: Aftercare For Tops
“Perhaps trust is my biggest kink. That would explain a lot.”
Bottoms Up: Be Your Own Submissive
“When I’m alone, and the world feels like it’s ending, for whom do I do service?”
View From The Top: Tops Have Limits, Too
“I knew she wanted it, I trusted her to know she could take what she asked for, and I wanted to give her what she wanted. But I couldn’t do it.”
Bottoms Up: A Way To Move Through The World
I started to see submission as less about what happens in play and more about a way to approach the world.
View From The Top: Tender-Hearted Dom
When you want your partner to be strong, dominant, demanding and strict, “What do you need right now? Can I make you a sandwich? Let’s watch your favorite movie!” is not a sexy reaction.
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Bottoms Up: What Limits?
Sex doesn’t exist in a vacuum, but what if during the act, it did? What if all I focused on during sex was consent and pleasure?
What I Want to Hear in Bed
That’s what’s tricky about disabled sexuality: most people, disabled or not or anyplace in between, have no idea how to discuss it. So fear of “saying the wrong thing” takes over instead and the problem feeds itself. We never talk about it because we don’t know how to start.