NOH8 Campaign photographer Adam Bouska talks to us about the night it all began, his surprise engagement to partner [and NOH8 visionary Jeff Parshley], his dream celebrities to shoot, why the hell Lady Gaga and Adam Lambert haven’t posed yet, backlash from the anti-gay contingent, and gearing up for the hot & sweaty Dinah Shore open shoot later this month.

The New York Times looks at sexual harassment in the military and many commenters agree that the problem is that women are too sexy and men will be men. We vehemently disagree, obvs. The Prop 8 trial will be tweeted from within, which means we are finally in the future! Oh wait, nvm — anti-equality morons in Iowa are already gearing up to vote for a constitutional ban on human rights in 2010.

It’s Sunday Funday! Are you ready for the second installment of Lindsay Lohan and Niecy Nash Being Best Friends? How about Ru Paul, Diva magazine, SNL’s gayest show ever (also funny!), kd Lang talks about being a vegan and chillaxing, Anne Hathaway, a new project from the people who gave you the 2009 Sweet Caribbean Cruise, and statements from both Tila Tequila and President Obama? Also, Bill O’Reilly is dumb and the tapes with John Stewart are great!

The Washington D.C. City Council said yes to marriage equality in its final vote on the bill. Howevs, Marion Barry voted no, which is frustrating. Los Angeles police have some new info on Mitrice Richardson, who went missing three months ago. There’s some good news for gay businesses. And were same-sex marriage supporters too vocal in New Jersey?

Portia De Rossi is on the cover of The Advocate with a fantastic in-depth interview, discussing topics including her marriage, equal rights advocacy, career aspirations and her new willingness to speak openly about her private life. Also! St.Vincent, behind the scenes of Skins and Lily Loveless interview, Chloe trailer, lesbian Desperate Housewives, Rihanna music video shoot, Lady Gaga’s telephone video, Vanity Fair responds to the WOC issue (not well), Justin TImberlake loves gender stereotypes, 40 sexiest videos, Jersey Shore and so! much! more!

Lucas Silveira nabbed Sexiest Man in ChartAttack’s 2009 Awards. New research confirms existing research about harsh realities for trans and gender-nonconforming youth in US Schools. Obama might talk about DADT in the State of the Union tomorrow. The Moscow mayor thinks gay pride parades are Satanic. The HRC tells you where to work. And Chicago might appoint a lez to the city council.

Here’s our roundup of the biggest, best, and worst events for gay people in 2009.

We saw Twilight: Eclipse, and it made us feel feelings ranging from feminist rage to boredom to JUST THE TIP to Kristen Stewart is Hawt. An Autostraddle mini-Roundtable.

This is basically the best daily fix ever, featuring an all-star lineup: Ellen DeGeneres and Katie Couric talk for a whole half hour, and it’s perfect, Tegan & Sara on peace, Lindsay Lohan talks to Nicey Nash about her hoarding problem and darkest secrets, Adam Lambert heralded as “the new face of glam rock” in the UK, Lady Gaga’s new tattoo, and more!

Sandra Bernhard talks to Autostraddle about prepping her eight live shows next week at Joe’s Pub in New York City, separatism between gay men & lesbians, Obama and the gay rights movement, her fave celeb trainwreck on Twitter, and gives advice to Lindsay & Samantha.

So many events this weekend, like SAG Awards, Hope for Haiti & Sundance! An arrest has been made in the Buffalo hate crime case against a young lesbian! We say goodbye to Conan & Kim Stolz’s hair and hello to civil unions in Hawaii! Porn stars are maybe lesbians, Salute Your Shorts is somewhere now, the NOH8 guys on MSNBC and LADY GAGA COOKIES EXIST.

“I Want the World to Know” invites YOU to share your own coming out story with the goal of humanizing the gay rights movement and diminishing homophobia. Jess sits down with Becca Katz, the filmmaker and activist who created the site that gives everyone a voice and opportunity to share their story.

D.C. Buses plastered with anti-gay marriage ads, post-holiday shopping deals, Charlie Sheen gives us an even more serious reason to hate “Two and a Half Men,” ABC Nightline asks why there are so many single black women, Haviland Stillwell interview, best TV moments of 2009, drag queen on the X-mas tree, and some funny Christmas Carol videos!

The Village Voice has an intriguing cover for their Queer Issue — we outline some of our more major confusions on the issue. Also, Chicago loves Nat Garcia and so do we, Lady Gaga fashion update, Gawker is there for those straight people trying to make it through Pride, one brave girl blogger takes on Seventeen Magazine, and one writer discusses how she manages marriage while bisexual.

We talk to Margaret Cho about tattoos, her romantic relationships with gay men, celebrities who come out later in their careers, her pick for “the next Gaga,” Adam Lambert, Ani DiFranco, Sex & the City and more.

Tila Tequila is engaged, refers to herself as one of those U-Haul lesbians. We have allegedly had enough of people talking smack about Lindsay Lohan. Mischa Barton prefers kissing girls onscreen, Bruce Springsteen in favor of gay marriage, Kate Moennig magazine feature, Ellen Von Unwerth interview & more!

Same-sex marriage is about to be legal in both Mexico City and Washington DC! New York Senator Diane Savino has had to fight off lesbian rumors in the past. There’s a new book about the link between America and the anti-gay bill in Uganda. And the closing of the South Florida Blade has led to not one but TWO new gay papers in the area.

Sunday Night’s MTV Movie Awards were a non-stop spectacular of awards for movies we haven’t seen and probably never will. More importantly, MTV tried to make the show as gay as possible, which isn’t surprising. Plus, WHO WON?

GLAAD asks Newsweek for apology over Seetodeh’s gays-can’t-play-straight piece! Why do we still care? Because, believe it or not, this isn’t even the worst thing he’s written about gay people for Newsweek, just look at the victim-blaming hate-crime cover story! Anti-DADT empirical research is on YouTube and they’re dancing, Happiness without perfection, what your server is thinking about your date, and a Catholic university isn’t hiring a lesbian.

Jess talks to polarizing musician Elizabeth Ziff: “Honestly, I’m queer more than I am gay. I’m peripheral. I’ve never been conformist, I’ve never been status quo, it’s never even entered my brain. I’ve been in a band for 25 years, that’s what I’ve done. Traveled the world, fucked, got wasted, been political, and created.”