How do you know what to do at a play party if you aren’t sure of all the kink etiquette? What if you just want to watch? What do you wear?? Whether you’re a top or bottom, dominant or submissive, switch, voyeur or exhibitionist, here’s the basics of what you need to know to have a great time at your first play party.
The thing is, there’s no RIGHT way to squirt or to get someone to squirt. There’s no one trick that gets every person, without fail, to magically ejaculate like a pro. That said, here are some places you can get started in trying to hosting your very own water show.
When the sex we want is criminalized or considered more “perverted” than the sex cisgender heterosexuals are engaging in, a handkerchief in the back pocket is a quiet way to show off our sexual deviancy in a world that doesn’t want to see it.
In this queer sex diary: long-distance FaceTime fucking, a dish rack full of sex toys, feeling sad, feeling S.A.D., and feeling goofy and good.
In our last post dedicated to our tops / bottoms / switches survey, we’re looking at a broad overview of all the data.
Today we’re using our sex survey data to talk about switches and also about those of you who identified as NONE OF THE ABOVE. Which is fine!
“She kisses me. I hold on to her arms lightly, not wanting to hurt her, not wanting to weird her out, make her uncomfortable. She’s here for me: I’d hired her for exactly that, and she agreed to it, and she’s here.”
“I’ve been dying to tell someone about how my partner and I finally found a name for our new dildo and it’s Antoni”
It’s time for part two of our series on what queer women and trans people are talking about when they talk about tops, bottoms and switches. Today we are taking your love ON TOP.
“One of the criticisms regularly lobbed against dental dams is the product’s perceived lack of sexiness, that stopping to grab one could kill the mood. Melanie Cristol was fed up. An accomplished consumer product and healthcare attorney at an international law firm based in Los Angeles, there wasn’t anything in her life that hinted she would be the reason for the next evolution in dental dams: Lorals.”
Have you ever experienced bed death in your relationship? If you did move past it, how? Has bed death ever signaled the end of a relationship for you? Has a fear of bed death ever made an impact on your relationships? Do you think bed death isn’t a big deal and we should stop talking about it?
I researched scissoring for you. My Google history is awesome right now.
All the glittery heart-driven DIY gay, lesbian, trans, and queer porn to watch right now.
What does it mean to be a top, bottom, or switch? What about dominant or submissive? We were gonna tell you but decided to ask you first.
In this sex diary: a single femme sets herself a masturbation challenge. New sex toys, late-night porn, learning to feel free and more.
An understanding of the leather community can help us co-exist, share spaces and celebrate all of the different ways to live queer lives.
Mutual masturbation isn’t a sexual cop-out — it’s actually a truly fantastic sexual activity.
You’ve got your harness. You’ve got a dildo to use with it. So what happens next?
Here’s how to put a few basic shibari ties together so you can hogtie your rope bottom!
Welcome to A+ Sex Diaries, an A+ feature for Silver & Gold members in which we publish seven days in our sex lives. This week: A single, soft butch writer openly dating multiple people. Lesbian, 32, the American west.