Hi! It is Sunday (obviously), and guess what? I’m so bored. I’m SO BORED. Even with simultaneous movie nights and puzzles and crossword puzzles, everything just seems endless lately. All I want to do is like, go get a tattoo or window shop or get my nails done, or honestly even go study in a library, just to be around another person. But I can’t! And so, instead of focusing on how bored I am, let’s focus on some good news!
+ Let’s celebrate 20 years of comrade Britney Spears‘ sophomore album, Oops!…I Did It Again
+ Doc Martens are releasing a boot for Pride, as if wearing Docs isn’t gay enough!
+ NYC is hosting a virtual pride, featuring the likes of Janelle Monáe and Dan Levy!
+ Cowboy hats and Pride flags: being gay in Wyoming.
+ Albania has become the third European country to ban conversion therapy.
+ So uh, we talked about this on Wednesday, but I’m still not over it — did y’all see Entertainment Weekly‘s Pride cover?
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+ The history of the word “wife” for lesbians and queer women. 😭😭😭
+ These celebs grew up with gay parents!
Alright friends, hope you’re surviving and thriving. Have you done any cool art this week? Taken a walk? Called a friend? Read a book?
When I’m feeling sad and scared and lonely this week — because the sad and scared and lonely feelings come every week lol — I’m gonna try and remind myself that even though I shouldn’t leave my house, I can get off of twitter, and make art, or try to do a handstand, or play with my cats, or dance to Vulfpeck in my underwear, or practice the aleph bet or literally a million other things. I am so privileged to have a home that I feel safe in and activities galore, and dangit, we’re fighting off boredom this week! Let’s do it, babes! I believe in you, and me, and us!
It’s International Day Against Homophobia today. The date of May 17th was specifically chosen to commemorate the World Health Organization’s decision to declassify homosexuality as a mental illness.
I loved that NY times article on the word “wife”. Very interesting mix of reactions also: some people proudly use to word wife or Mrs because of how long they have had to fight to get it, others do not use it because it points back to a time where the wife would have been subservient to the husband.
I’ve personally never considered that a wife would be subservient, not in this day and age, but I come from a very progressive and feminist family where my mom worked and my dad cooked.
The other thing is, I’m Dutch and we’ve had gay marriage since 2001, the year I was 12, before I even knew I was gay. I’ve never emotionaly experienced not being legally able to marry. Most of my straight friends and family are not married anyway, despite having kids and buying houses. Or they get married after being together for many years, because that’s when they’ve saved up for a nice party.
One thing that we don’t have anymore, language wise, is the difference between miss and mrs. Any adult with female pronouns is “mevrouw”, mrs, and that is such a nice thing.
“mevrouw” looks like a very sexy-sounding purr. I could get into that…