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+ What to know how to get better at sex? Listen and pay attention to your partner:
“The constant demand for sex advice evidences the very human desire to feel sexually confident and capable. ‘No one wants to be dumb at sex,’ Prause says — what an embarrassing area of life to know nothing about. That’s probably also why people don’t communicate about what they like or want to know about: They don’t want to look stupid. ‘But the expertise isn’t embedded in the information,’ she says. ‘It’s embedded in the individual.’ Put another way: Don’t study texts on sex; study your partner.
Beyond the basic anatomy of knowing what goes where, Pause says that if you’re going to get ‘better at sex,’ the best thing you can do is listen to your partner. Indeed, what the research suggests is that what really drives sexual satisfaction is rapport.
via kristamcpherson
+ In a love letter to Crash Pad, Mx Nillin Dennison writes about how learning queer sex taught them to love their body.
+ In Toronto August 12? Deliciously Disabled is holding Justify My Love, its annual fully accessible, sex-positive play party for people with disabilities and their allies. The organizers note, “This one-of-a-kind event seeks to put the delectability of disability on display, and give the disabled community a space where they can access their sexuality on their terms! […] The goal is to make sexuality and disability accessible to everyone of all disabilities/abilities, genders/orientations.”
Leather Coven via dirgemag
+ Hey Epiphora has all the sex toy news that’s fit to print.
+ it’s okay if you feel like you have to pee during sex.
Geshiex via Dark skinned women are beautiful
+ Union negotiations at Babeland, the first sex shop at which workers have voted to unionize, recently began.
+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Erika Moen reviewed Fun Factory’s Amorino, noting, “if you do like rabbit vibrators, this is probably a good one.”
+ Condoms are good for queer vulva havers too.
via queerishot
+ Eve Medical, a Toronto-based company, is trying to create at-home STI test kits for people with cervixes. The kits could make tests more accessible for populations who have difficulty accessing medical care, but critics note that while some testing is better than no testing, they won’t actually solve the problem of healthcare access:
“It sounds like the perfect solution, but Nicole Flemmer, a nurse practitioner practicing gynecologic oncology in Seattle, says it’s not that simple. While Flemmer thinks the Eve Kit is a good option for some populations, she has reservations, particularly because people might not seek healthcare if they use self-collected samples. […]
Flemmer also says home testing does not solve the problem of access to healthcare because a positive test result will still require a visit to a clinic. For patients with the before-mentioned barriers to healthcare, home screening will only tell them they have infections they can’t get treated. ‘[The Eve Kit] would be better than no testing at all,’ says Flemmer, ‘but it would be best served by being a collaborative effort between healthcare provider and patient.'”
Black “Chevron” Chest Harness. Modelled by Lily Liqueur.
+ Pokémon Go is more popular than porn searches or Tinder (on Android) and “perfect as a dating game”:
“‘It’s perfect as a dating game,’ Karen North, professor of digital social media at USC Annenberg School, told Wired. ‘You meet someone with a common interest, engage in that activity together, and get a new challenge for tomorrow and the next day.’
‘If you’re out and you see somebody playing, it’s like at a bar: it gives you a shared social situation,’ she added. ‘Plus, it breaks through the awkwardness, by providing a natural pickup line.'”
via cutmysleevesoff
+ Are you queer and poly? A new Autostraddle series will explore how queer polyamory functions, how it feels, what it looks like and more. Tell me about your life and you might be featured!
I am so very very excited for the queer polyamory series!!
You definitely had me at “queer polyamory series”.
As a transgender lesbian, the crash pad site has helped me so much to be comfortable with my sexual female feelings and my body parts, since I still have a penis. This site is the most body positive sexual site…..letting people be the gender they identify as, the orientation they have, without requiring their bodies to fit into the binary model, and the stereotype of what a pretty, sexy body has to be.
And listening to your partner has also been very enlightening for me. My first gf was a cis lesbian who helped me open up about my female identity and ease my body anxiety. Her compassionate understanding helped me experience my first girl to girl love comfortably and happily. And she taught me the great joy of girl kissing! ?
shout-out to that feature imageeee
I totally agree!
Chiming in to add I’m also excited about the queer polyamory series! I often feel like I’m alone in this. My new girlfriend is new to polyamory, so I’ll be sure to share this with her.
Yassssssss (to er’ting)