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+ Life is so much easier when you know about your vagina:
“The truth is, until I was twenty-three or so, my friends and I didn’t know that much about our ladyparts. We were aware of the basics, but when it came to advanced-level stuff, we were kind of clueless. What do you do if sex hurts? What happens if your Pap smear is abnormal? How do you prevent a UTI? These were questions I didn’t know the answer to, and if any of my female friends knew, they weren’t saying.”
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+ Sugarbutch would like to help butch tops get off:
“It might be time for some radical acceptance about how your body works. So maybe you don’t come over and over — but are your orgasms strong and powerful? Are they big, and leave you panting and shaking? Maybe not. But think about the things that are uniquely yours about your orgasm, and embrace them.”
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+ The TSA will write you personal notes about your vibrator while missing that handgun in the bag next to yours:
“First, note what the TSA hasn’t been catching in checked baggage: loaded guns. Specifically, a loaded gun that slipped through security at LAX last Sunday. The only reason anyone even knows about the incident is because the gun simply fell out of a duffel bag as it was being unloaded at its destination. Not to worry though — TSA wants you to know that it’s only their responsibility to check for loaded guns in carry-on luggage, not in checked bags. Great news.
It’s nonetheless interesting that TSA would bring up their searches of checked luggage. While some of their agents were very pointedly not catching loaded guns, other agents — specifically those in Newark — were leaving notes about sex toys in women’s luggage. Jill Filipovic of Feministe was traveling to Dublin and had packed her silver bullet vibrator. When she opened her luggage on the other side of the ocean she found an inspection slip and a note saying “GET YOUR FREAK ON GIRL.”
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+ There are 10 fetish photographers to follow on Twitter.
+ It just got harder to access porn in the UK after a judge ruled that Britain’s largest ISP has to prevent its customers from accessing a movie piracy site opposed by major film studios:
“‘Copyright owners can take a great deal of comfort from today’s decision,’ said Simon Baggs, a lawyer from Wiggin LLP in London, who argued for a film studio trade group in last year’s case. ‘The court has conclusively recognized the critical role that ISPs can be required to play in preventing infringement.'”
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+ There are lots of reasons to like glass sex toys.
+ Remittance Girl has advice on how to write erotica:
“You are going to have to read a lot of work that is reasonably modern, and develop your own sense of whether it is good writing or not. Not just hot, but GOOD. I would also suggest that you don’t limit your reading to ‘erotica’. There are many works of fiction that are deeply sensual, sensory, emotional, honest and excellent examples of the kind of elements necessary to good erotic writing. They are often novels that work you up to the place where people are going to fuck and then shyly close off the chapter there. […]
Erotica deals with subject matter that almost everyone already lives – desire, sex, love, lust, rejection, hope. We all have a lot of experience of these things. So writing about it in an interesting way is even harder. Your sexual or romantic experience may be interesting to you because you’re emotions are invested in it. But it’s not special to anyone else unless you can bring some special insight your written account. I think I’ve said this before, but I’ll say it again: sexually speaking, we all know what goes where. We don’t need you to write that.”
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+ John Millward went through 5,000 reviews of escorts to see what language everyone used, among other things: “People have very different opinions on prostitution. Is it healthy? Moral? Should it be totally legalized? But they are questions for a different article. All I want to comment on here is what I’ve seen in the field reports I’ve analyzed and read.” The results are really interesting, and an infographic:
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i definitely loved these photos, adding the sites to my tumblr dashboard asap. also love love love the sugarbutch quote.
The escort article was fascinating to me… I used to work in the sex industry, though never as an escort, so anything related to that area instantly intrigues me!
Me too – as a dancer.
….I’m fascinated by the world of prostitution…when I was in Amsterdam I wanted to just hire a girl out to hear about her life…but I figure most of them don’t speak English..
I also think it’s an area that is so warped by perception that it is interesting to examine it in a more analytical context.
I would not have guessed that Chloe was far and above the most common name for escorts in the UK.
I just donated an hour or so of my life to Chloe and the Dirty Words.
Time well spent.
“get your freak on girl!”
That… is hilarious.
Thank you so much for quoting from my blog post. I do hope it’s helpful. Erotic fiction is desperately in need of good, innovative writing.
Hi,
I’m Jon Millward and I wrote the article and produced the infographic about the 5000 escort reviews. Just wanted to say thanks to Autostraddle for showcasing it and also thanks to those people who have said they found it interesting!
I’m currently doing a follow-up that will use a similar approach to see how the escorts view themselves, their world and the men who hire them. It should be even more enlightening than ‘Dirty Words 1’!
Oh, if you’d like to hear when the next escort article and infographic go public, you can follow me on Twitter @j_millward
juicy sistas
John Millward’s research is very interesting indeed. Very compelling. But I am a little troubled by some of his conclusions.
“the women are undermining the dignity of their sexual selves by opening the door to any man who has enough cash”
This is an assumption that undermines the conclusions of the data gathered. I think that both men and women situate their sexual dignity in many different places and in order to make a statement like that, you’d have to interview them.
Hi Remittance Girl,
Thanks for your reply on my article over at my blog. I’ve written a longer reply over there. Just to be clear here though, that the women are undermining their sexual dignity wasn’t strictly one of my conclusions. More a fishing line thrown out to see if it hooked any emotional bait in the article’s readers. I DO think there are some very interesting angles to the escort industry and do wonder how spiritually fulfilling the occupation is for a girl over the long-long-term, but, yeah, I don’t think it’s a black and white issue.
I aim to find out more about the girls’ minds in my next piece on the industry.
Hi Jon.
I’m going to be very interested in your next batch of research.
I doubt very much that most sex workers find their jobs spiritually fulfilling. But then, I doubt that most secretaries, cleaning ladies, clothing sales-people, dental hygienists or coffee bar attendants find their job all that spiritually fulfilling either.
They all might come into contact with a client who is likable. And that’s great when it happens. But most of the time, it’s just a job. And people look for their spiritual fulfillment elsewhere. At home, with their girlfriends, boyfriends, friends, family. In their hobbies and passions.
It seems to be a very rare and wonderful thing when someone can find a job that gives them spiritual fulfillment.