Today is Sunday. What are you wearing? You should change into something more comfortable if you’re not comfortable. It’s Sunday. If you want to have sex, you might end up taking it off later. Whatever it is that you’re wearing.
A study shows that sex is better if you wait until marriage, but that study was possibly totally bunk — like Psychology Today wonders if the entire sample was garnered from students at Brigham Young Unversity. For real. (@psychology today)
Have you ever waited? I mean, obvs we can’t wait until marriage because it’s not legal for gays to get married, but you should try it, says a friend who shouldn’t be looking at my computer screen but IS. It’s always hard not to have sex on or before the first date AM I RIGHT LADIES but, if you’re forced to wait for one reason or another, it’s really special that by the time you finally get naked, you totally understand the other person’s body from all that heavy petting and totally understand their mind from all that conversation. Then it ends up being even specialer. Just a tip from a friend.
New York Magazine Sex Diary – The Polyamorous Transman Getting It On to the Glee Soundtrack: “We start to play a game where I get a hand job if I sing along and they stop if I stop. I have to sing “Lean on Me,” which takes the lyrics “If you have a load that you have to bear” and “Call on me brother when you need a hand” to a whole other level.” (@nymag)
More “science” — your body image alters after the first time you have sex, maybe. (@scientific american)
My First, and Second, and Third, and Fourth Threesome: “Part of the reason I’ve had so many threesomes, I’m sure, can be blamed on that trough of horniness known as college. I was somehow the only out bisexual among my group of mostly straight friends, and on any given weekend, we would get semi-naked, talk about Heidegger, and drink enough booze to sterilize a small lake.” (@alternet)
via the 10 cent designer
It’s a dude asking, but the advice still stands – All the girls I’ve ever dated were insane. Why are crazy women drawn to me? (@nerve)
Adriana Nicole’s Dangerous Mind, starring Jiz Lee and directed by Tristan Taormino, is out out out. Do you want it?
1 Woman. Many Definitions of Rough Sex. 5 Different Fantasies. She creates the scenes. She chooses her partners. She controls what happens. Watch as Adrianna shares her most intimate fantasies, tests her own boundaries, and rides the seductive line between pleasure and pain. Witness her explosive sexuality at its most extreme: raw, rough, and real.
via jizlee.com
Katrina Bowden is Esquire’s Hot Woman of 2011. I’ve never heard of this woman, but she looks more or less like all the others. (@esquire)
I bet you always wanted to know more about sploshing: “What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you think about someone getting a pie in the face? “The Three Stooges?” Circus clowns? April Fools’ Day? For people who are into sploshing, the first thing that comes to mind is sex. You heard me right, sex.” (@foxnews)
via allthingsqueer.com
Sex advice from Girls With Underarm Hair: “The first time I had a crush on someone who was the same gender as me, it was on a woman who didn’t shave her legs. I was so fascinated by it; I couldn’t put my finger on why, but eventually I followed suit and then came out. Not shaving became a signifier of being gay. I lived in a region where there was a particular look for a gay person.” (Also the last girl, Nikki, is pretty amazing.)
Lesbian Spider Queens From Mars: It’s a video game, sex is involved. Lesbian sex. I think.
indeed, nikki does rock with her responses :)
Katrina Bowden is from 30 Rock.
I don’t find her attractive, but her character is HILARIOUS.
^Ditto
Tina Fey is much hotter. :D
The end of the second nerve.com question caught my eye:
“Work on getting out more, fall in love as many times as you want, and lighten up a bit. Infatuation, heartbreak, despair, moving on: look at all the ground you’ve covered in a week. Apply that same can-do attitude to your social life, and you’ll be golden.”
HOW is that sploshing article on foxnews.com???
right?? although apparently fetishes can be a thing to the most unlikely of groups y’know?
Lmao HOW does talk of Heidegger lead to sex?!? As far as I know, the House of Being ≠ threesomes. #tellmeyoursecret
Right? I can’t imagine a more effective mood-killer.
Are you kidding me? Heidegger takes me into immediate pants-off territory.
… of course, my first time was sparked by a super hot conversation about the IRA and Irish nationalism, so maybe I’m a biased sample.
“like Psychology Today wonders if the entire sample was garnered from students at Brigham Young Unversity. For real. (@psychology today)”
1. I know some Mormons that have had a WHOLE lot more sex then me and they twernt married neither AND
2. The ones who haven’t had pre-marital sex… how do they know?
Then again, as someone who doesn’t just have sex to procreate, what the hell do I know…
food: something I appreciate too much to waste on sex.
sploshing: one more thing to add to the list of sexual activities I am not willing to try.
Having sex absolutely did change my body image. But, you know, in a SUPER POSITIVE direction. Sorry, abstinence promoters!
… actually, who am I kidding? They probably WANT me to hate my body. Because, you know, I’m a LADY with gross dirty GIRL PARTS that I should be ASHAMED of. Ew, amirite?
i really appreciate that nerve article. #dontstickyourdickincrazy
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Redditor?
Also, your boyfriend Adam Lambert totally talked about sploshing with Michelle Collins in this interview that just came out today: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x6x_VKY_JU4
I think the link for the body image article is broken :/
no. you just PERCEIVE it that way. therapy helps.
sploshing…what a kick….didn’t know that is what it was called but have done whip cream, chocolate and honey before.
Although, I much prefer myself and my partner unadulterated – i find the musky scent of a slightly sweaty girl a huge turn on and don’t want her smelling like a banana split….
btw, put me down in the “katrina bowden is hot” column. I must be there because my girlfriend and i were doing a sunday afternoon stroll through AS and I slowed down considerably when I hit the link to the Esquire pictures. She whacked me in the head with a pillow to get me to move on…. :)
Agreed, she is so hot.
So…I really love Adult Swim and that game is crazy. Like a gay, odd Pac Man…but I love it.
And Katrina Bowden is hot, but I’m still in love with the photography of Sarah Shahi (my future ex-wife…)
lindseyhart, are you insane?
maybe?
Hey Diver, figure that is probably directed to my comment on sploshing? Perhaps an explanation is in order:
I am 20 and I don’t smoke, drink or have ever used any drugs. This was a very firm code my parents laid down (with like the threat of really, scary serious harm if we violated them) and I have lived by it. But I have lived a very non-traditional family life, in that my parents are extremely open about sex and my mom knew I was a lesbian before I even formed a sexual identity. She has a great six sense about these things (she’s bisexual herself). I also have a number of gay family members so we are just one big gay family :). My parents never discouraged experimentation as long as safe sex practices were used.
As a result I have probably lived a much more adventurous sex life than my tender age of 20 would normally indicate but I also am rapidly maturing. Most of my experimentation has been in the past (including the above) and I come to realize that the best sex is natural and simple. No tools, batteries or foreign substances required. Little Lindy (as my Cousins call me) is rapidly maturing. Said in a different way, I am growing up.
Also I do a lot of counseling and outreach which has taught me to be more outside myself and think more about others and their needs. I think of it as developing the “we of me” if you read any Carson McCullers.
Honestly, I don’t owe you this explanation in a public forum, but I like you too much (at least what I know about you through your writing), not to give it to you.
Take care! and seriously, I want to hear about those ship wreck dives when you do them this summer!!!!
btw: am I insane? Probably depends on which day you catch me on! :)
Lesbian spider queens?! Do you realize all the scissoring we could do?!