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Welcome to NSFW Sunday! This post is not intended to take any focus whatsoever from the conversations happening in our Orlando coverage or elsewhere on the internet or at any of the vigils being held as the day progresses; it’s just here because talking about queer sex is radical and sometimes you need to look away from the news and putting it up felt better than refreshing Twitter another thousand times alone in my apartment. Take care of yourselves.

Denise Mercedes by photographer Bruna Lacerda

+ More Americans are having gay sex:

“The study, published Wednesday in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, found the percent of adult men who reported having sex with at least one man increased from 4.5 percent in the early 1990s to 8.2 percent in the early 2010s. The percent of adult women who admitted to having sex with at least one woman also increased from 3.6 percent to 8.7 percent. And the percent of adults who reported having sex with both men and women went up from 3.1 percent to 7.7 percent.”

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+ Hey Epiphora is a treasure and we are lucky to have her and her review of the simplehuman Sensor Pump aka lube dispenser:

“An automatic lube dispenser is not the kind of thing laypeople probably need. It’s a borderline unnecessary product, emblematic of American culture’s obsession with efficiency and desire to streamline every part of our lives, but that could be said about many things. People buy spinning forks so they don’t have to twirl their own spaghetti. Selfie sticks are not a basic human need. I guess I could sit up to drink water, but by god when given the choice not to, I take it. That’s the benefit of living in the 21st century, and I am proud to automate the transference of lube to my genitals.”

@devill_doesnt_sleep via rodeoh

+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Stormy writes about how to go to your first BDSM play party.

+ Tinder is going to start trying to meet trans users’ needs.

+ Adult Performers Talk Safer Sex is a new series from Crash Pad that focuses on what performers do for safer sex and why.

+ Here’s how to shop for a safe lube.

Lydia Ezeakor by Tamara Lichtenstein via alexandreanissa.com

+ Sometimes you have to talk about money with an activity partner, whether on the first date (“can we split the bill?”) or when first making a big purchase like a trip together (“how do you budget?”) or before any sort of life entanglement steps (“how much money do you make?” “how will we split the bills?”). Keep a few big questions in mind, do it out of the house over dinner, and don’t let feeling uncomfortable stop you from necessary conversation.

+ At Refinery29, Lily Yin writes about being fetishized as an Asian sex worker, microaggressions, expectations, and how “Working as a domme and operating outside the normal confines of society gave me an opportunity to find myself. I now know that I don’t have to exist on a binary. […] I’ve learned to be more vocal about my needs; I no longer have to be nice at the expense of myself. I’m finally empowered to make my own choices, even if they deviate greatly from what’s expected of me.”

@_houndstooth via rodeohs

+ A Hamilton porn parody is coming.

+ Asexual and/or aromantic people face a lot of misconceptions.

+ You can probably have kinky lucid dreams, if you practice.

+ Violet Blue discusses why the Washington Post‘s “In Theory” series on porn is devastatingly porn-negative and filled with anti-porn activists.

+ Where online can you find “erotica for women”? Also, Unbound profiled Trenchcoat.x, a porn site by Stoya and Kayden Cross launched “after months of conversations and a realization that between the two of them they could produce content that was objectively better than what they had seen — they wanted better production values and the liberty to explore more interesting concepts while creating content that was ultimately still really hot.”

Tia Provost

+ Vaginas are supposed to have a smell:

“‘Any smell you have is a combination of what the human metabolizes and what the bacteria metabolizes,’ says Dr. Maria Mendes Soares of the Mayo Clinic. You are what you eat, as the saying goes, and apparently your vagina also smells like what you eat. […]

What about in general? How should your vagina smell most of the time? Like your stomach and your mouth, your vagina is home to billions of bacteria. The bacteria to which Dr. Mendes Soares refer are called the vaginal flora, or vaginal microbiota. The vaginal flora work to keep your vagina’s pH at 4.5, or slightly acidic. It’s likely that your vagina has a slightly sour smell. There will also most likely be a slight musty smell, from sweat that builds up in the nooks and crannies of the human body. Neither of these smells should be overpowering. In a blog post on WebMD, Dr. Heather Rupe says you should be able to smell a vagina from one foot away.”

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