The feature image of Mona Wales and Kaya Lin and all of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from fetish site Mondo Fetiche. The inclusion of a visual here is not an assertion of a model’s gender or orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday! And welcome to hot divorcée summer:
“Hear me out. You know what’s broken? Everything. If we’ve lived through this year, we’ve experienced unimaginable loss. Loss of our jobs and our friends or parents or grandparents. The nation’s capital was under attack. Remember that? Airlines got huge bailouts, while our nation’s mothers are being forced from the workforce. And this is just the highlight reel. We are burnt out, overloaded, overworked, and under showered.
This is not a summer of pretending things are fine. Of going back to normal. This is the summer of calling this shit out. Of saying it’s not okay. Of standing up for ourselves. Of nuking our lives. Of breaking them down. Of letting go. Of refusing to hold it all together. Of refusing to smile and say, “He helps; he picked up dinner the other night.” When you and I both know he left a stack of dishes in the sink for you to figure out, even though you had two Zoom meetings and inexplicably it was dress-like-a-penguin day for online school. No. We are done with that. And it ends now.”
Domina Mari and Billie LaBeau for Mondo Fetiche
Why not block your exes on Tinder?
Friend of the pod Mistress Justine’s Daddy, a virtual queer kink party, is coming up on 19 June and you can get tickets here.
Ashley Paige and Ava D’Amore for Mondo Fetiche
From Dani Janae, here’s how to flirt with a date fat people without being all weird about it:
“When dating a fat person, do show pride for having snagged that babe! Don’t try to hide your relationship in public, be less affectionate around other people, or act like what’s going on between the two of you isn’t actually that big a deal. That makes us feel like we are a big, bad secret—that you’re ashamed to be with us. Wouldn’t you rather have a person you’re into feel appreciated, and even swooned over? So do those things instead—at home, and out in the world.”
Amazon Maddox and Francisco St. Laurent for Mondo Fetiche
Here’s how to introduce a partner to your parents. Start small and incidental and go from there:
“If you live far from your parents, FaceTime them while you’re hanging out with your boo. Swivel the phone a little and let your latest beloved wave or say hello. Boom, now they’re acquainted, kind of.
Do a little work on your own when they’re not around, too. Start peppering their name into conversations when your mom calls so your parents get the idea that this new person is becoming a fixture in your life. Text your parents photos if you, say, go on a cool date. The more serious your parents think the relationship is going into the big meeting, the more likely they are to like the person, and the less likely they are to think it won’t matter if they don’t.”
The hot divorcee summer thing is the best thing I’ve read in a while. I keep trying to explain to people how I feel this summer and WHY I feel this way and this is exactly it.
Hot divorcee summer hit me on a whole lot of levels. Thank you for including it, because I really needed to read that. Thank you
Last summer was Lukewarm Separated Person Summer, so I am looking forward to bringing some chaotic-good energy to this Hot Divorcee Summer.