Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
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+ In Guts, Kaleigh Trace writes about queerness, disability and sex, and constructing your own desires:
“In this sexualized world, what our desires ought to look like are carved into our soft psyches at a young age. When we choose to defy this premeditated messaging and deconstruct and rebuild our sexual identities in our own name, we are performing a wild act of reclamation. We are progressing, not on a path towards normal but on a path towards bodily self-governance. To choose the sex that we truly want; to learn how to treat our bodies and the bodies of others safely and with consent; to apply to ourselves and others a gentleness that demands nothing but respect: what a radically defiant life project.”
Janey Yuan via womeofcolor
+ I am a huge fan of Stoya’s advice column at Refinery 29 because she often tells people to decide what they want and communicate about it without bullshit, like in this week’s discussion involving different relationship types:
“First, decide what you want. Not what you guess you have to treat it as, not what you think you can get, but what you want. Try to set aside everything you’ve internalized about what typical relationships look like and imagine the ideal scenario for your sexual and romantic life right now. […]
Then, express your wants.”
Shauna J White via rodoeh
+ Transitioning Together has some sex advice for cis partners of trans people, focusing on communication and being considerate.
+ Also do not fetishize trans people.
via famous curves
+ At Patheos, Anike surveys erotica by and for Muslim women.
+ Depression and anxiety can really kill your sex drive.
+ There are some really terrible vibrator reviews out there.
Kimberly Kills via crashpad
+ In a review of Marilyn Minter’s Plush, a book on pubic hair, Chelsea G. Summers writes:
“While most of art history looks askance at female pubic hair, Marilyn Minter invites you to get all up in these hairy snatches. Just as she’d previously done in her glossy, liquid photos of women’s lipstick-loved mouths, bedazzled high-heels in mud, gilded tongues, and glittered eyes, Minter simultaneously deconstructs and glamorizes her subject in Plush. These 70 photos capture the pubic triangles of several models of a variety of races, all women whom Minter paid to grow their pubes. Amassed in this book, these photos make the female bush into a decontextualized thing of glory. Like close-up shots of a luxury car’s leather upholstery, Minter’s photographs entice you to pet, to stroke, to feel, to rub your cheek against them — if they’ll let you.”
+ Polly: Sex Culture Revolutionary, by Polly Whittaker, is excerpted at Tiny Nibbles:
“Our culture has taught us that sex is supposed to look a certain way — we watch movies, look at magazines, and read stories, and our sexual expectations become intertwined with these fantasies. When things don’t turn out like the movies, where sweaty but perfect bodies rock to that moment of mutual climax in just a few minutes, we blame ourselves.
What I’ve discovered on my adventure is that my ability to orgasm is vastly broader than I could have imagined. It’s not simply a short moment in time, a single, fleeting instant. These days, after years of exploration, reading lots of books, and even participating in a few hands on workshops, I have learned to tune into the subtle, stepping stone sensations that radiate through me. They are waves of pleasure, which pulse and deepen. It’s like an opening, surrendering to my capacity for pleasure. They aren’t a release — they build, one on the other, until my entire body is flickering with their energy. From this place I have no greedy desire for an “orgasm,” but occasionally those blissful stepping stones take me to a rolling, timeless climax that can keep going and going. I have yet to find an end to it. So my understanding of orgasm has expanded from a very specific moment in time, attached to a sensation of neediness and fear, to an arc of pleasure and surrender with no end.”
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i wanted to copy and paste the entire excerpt from polly:sex culture revolutionary, just too good
In regards to Minters, PLUSH …. sorry dude, not even for money . . . !!!
What a beautiful piece by Kaleigh Trace about disability and Sexuality.WOW. That awareness of self and learning to love the skin your in. It is something we can all Identify with.