Feature image of Courtney McCullough, photographed by Paul Gilmore in West Hollywood, via nervous fingers

Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

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+ “When it comes to a woman’s orgasm, the only thing worth considering is the woman having it.” And other things people need to get over, including taking too long (you’re not), making too much noise (you’re not), worrying about your fantasies (they’re normal you’re normal) and more:

“Let me say that again. All fantasies are allowed. You don’t have to think about the person you’re with. You don’t even have to think about sex. You don’t have to think about anything. But what you do have to do is let your brain go where it wants to go. That is, where it wants to go when it comes to turning you on. No bills or body image stuff. Leave that at the door.”

Sami Price and Shane Castle via crashpad

+ How To Make Me Come is a collection of anonymous essays about women’s orgasms and some of those essays are by queer women and are like this:

“When she is fucking me, my mind is overwhelmed with pleasure. She is rough tonight, not letting me touch her, moving me around the bed however she likes. My moans tell her that I like it. She knows how much it turns me on to give over control, to submit and let her have her way. I love pleasing her. She fucks me hard and talks dirty to me, calling me a bad girl, but never a bitch. She knows exactly how to occupy this dominant role without offending me, she knows my boundaries and respects them. She fucks me from behind, turning me over and slapping my ass several times, so that it stings. She pulls my hair, bringing my head back towards hers.”

Kewntonza, Los Angeles 2015, by Tundae

+ Only you can prevent codependent relationships:

“I know you’re in love, and I know you just booked a one-way ticket to Makeout City, but trust me on this one: If you want your relationship to last, you need to step outside of it once in a while. Don’t forget your friends (and don’t let your partner forget theirs). Make concrete plans to spend time apart, and encourage each other to keep up strong friendships and make time for the non-romantic cohorts in your lives.

It’s also super important to spend some time alone! Just being by yourself, reconnecting with who you are when nobody else is around—giving yourself time to think or sleep or draw or watch a silly movie—will renew your spirit and give you the opportunity to figure out who you are at the moment.”

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+ A new drink might be able to prevent UTIs within an hour of sex.

+ There are a lot of options in casual sex/play apps these days.

+ Want to make your own dental dam? You totally can.

Feature image via loneookami

+ It’s completely possible to share your fantasies with someone, even if you’re shy. Get comfortable with them on your own, find a good time to talk and don’t over thing it:

“The very word ‘fantasy’ makes a lot of people nervous, so they wind up making their fantasies seem like a bigger deal than they really are. A fantasy is just something that turns you on in your mind. Sure, you can have a detailed dungeon torture fantasy, but you can also have a fantasy as simple as ‘I want to have sex with the lights on.’ You can also be unsure about your fantasies. For example, you may be curious about having an orgy, but not sure if you’d actually like it in reality.

You also don’t need to try to make sense of why you have a particular fantasy or what it ‘says about you’ that some particular thing turns you on. Remember, fantasies don’t always overlap with desires. But even if you do want to try out a fantasy in real life, there’s still no need to judge it. Rape fantasies are a classic example: being raped is one of the top five fantasies for women, but having a rape fantasy doesn’t mean you actually want to be raped in real life. It also doesn’t make you a crazy person or a bad feminist.”

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+ At the Cut, the sex diary of a woman dating another woman for the first time (also discussed here):

“I’ve never been hit on by a woman before. I’ve also never kissed a woman, even in a drunk-college way. But … um … okay … cool … very cool?! She says she’s taking off, but that it was really nice to meet me, and she’d love to get together sometime. When we hug good-bye, her hands kind of glide down my sides, and our cheeks touch. It’s intimate. It’s not, like, a nice-to-meet-you-new-friend thing.”

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+ From the Autostraddle Lesbian Sex Archives: “You Need Help: Telling Someone How To Sex You Up“:

“I’m not saying you open with “um, so you’re not satisfying me and I feel like you’re having a really difficult time understanding how my body works.” Yeah, don’t lead with that. In fact, don’t say that at all. Because you know that if they could just find that password, they’d be saying that password to the moon and back. Fortunately, people DO come with a user manual, you just have to verbally speak it into existence. After all, no one is a mind reader, so people usually just do what feels good for them until they’re given some other thing to do.”

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