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+ The Casual Sex Project, run by sex researcher, educator and NYU instructor Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, is collecting stories about all kinds of hookups. In an interview with Nerve, Vrangalova says:
“The media loves sensationalist stories and so the image they portray is often exaggerated and biased, though not always in the same direction. It’s very whimsical and inconsistent. If one day a study (or a poignant story) comes out finding a link between depression and hookups, you’ll see a huge discussion and coverage of how bad hookups are. The next week, a study finds that most people stay friends with their FWBs after the benefits end, the media is all over how hookups are not so bad after all. But I do feel like there is an overall bias in our culture toward being weary of hookups, treating them as “guilty until proven innocent,” rather than the other way around.”
via curves in color
+ In Georgia, you need to have a prescription to buy a vibrator:
“Melissa Davenport, a resident of Sandy Springs, has filed suit against the city because, as her lawyer Gerry Weber told a local TV station, the ordinance allows the government to “stick its nose in your bedroom and say you can use this but not that.” Davenport has multiple sclerosis, which she says has impacted her sex life with her husband, and she credits sex toys with saving her marriage. Yet her doctors still won’t write her a prescription.
Leaving aside the bizarreness of the policy itself – people should be able to buy sex toys for the sheer fun of it – it seems ironic that a woman with a real medical condition is being denied sex toys, when you consider that the vibrator was actually invented to cure a (fake) medical condition: hysteria.”
via curves in color
+ You can also be fined up to $10,000 for buying a vibrator in Alabama, and there are other repressive sex laws in other places too.
+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Erika Moen reviewed Fuze’s Velvet dildo and the Oh Joy Sex Toy kickstarter. Lucy Bellwood also wrote about using survival tools as sex toys.
+ HappyPlayTime, the vulva-related masturbation app we covered about a year ago, has been rejected from App Store. Lux Alptraum argues this is a good thing:
“The young women who would most benefit from this game are the ones least likely to be able to access it in iOS app form. iPhones may seem universal these days, but plenty of teenagers don’t have access to Apple’s pricey smartphones; and the select few who do are often unable to download apps without parental permission. Chances are good that teenage users of HappyPlayTime aren’t willing or able to ask a parent to let them download an app that’ll teach them how to touch themselves: and even if they were, do we really want this game to be placed behind the gate of parental permission?”
via mtspena
+ At the Toast, Emily Anthes discusses female condoms and what their future might look like.
+ Sinclair Sexsmith wrote about ways to extend power play into your domestic non-sexy-times life with a partner.
+ We kiss for a whole bunch of reasons.
+ Some non-porn things have been called “porn for women” because the patriarchy.
+ In a study that looked at, among other things, slut shaming, it turned out that sluts do not exist (unless you identify yourself that way for fun).
+ In Germany, you can now make your ex delete all naked or intimate photos of you, following a ruling earlier this month:
“The case had been brought by a woman in central Germany who demanded that her partner, a photographer, delete all intimate photos of her after the couple split.
During the course of the relationship, the photographer had made several erotic videos and taken many naked pics of the woman with her consent.
A higher court in Koblenz decided that she had the right to demand the material be deleted, because her personal rights were more important than his ownership rights to the material, the Local reported.”
via colorandcurves
+ Desirable people seem to attract other desirable people, but sometimes it’s uniqueness that matters most:
“The old axiom says beauty is in the eye of the beholder. When it comes to initial impressions, this statement is not really true: Consensus about desirable qualities creates a gulf between the haves and have-nots. But the truth of this maxim increases over time: As people get to know each other, decreasing consensus and increasing uniqueness give everyone a fighting chance.”
Ginger Ivory Rose and Vera Baby by the Sensual Eye
Featured image of Dwam Auryn and Vex by blathh.tumblr.com.
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Fined for a sex toy? It’s 2014, not 1890 or something. Wow, I learned a lot in this article.
Is it Georgia that requires a prescription for sex toys, or just Sandy Springs (an affluent conservative suburb of Atlanta that I am somewhat familiar with, having lived about two suburbs over for eight and a half years of childhood and having family who still live in the area)? The linked article made it sound like the latter.
Also, for more Sandy Springs fun that may give you a sense of the politics of that area, there is this article about how they privatized almost the entire city government: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/06/24/business/a-georgia-town-takes-the-peoples-business-private.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0
I’m gonna crawl out of the Lesbosexy Sunday lurkers’ woodwork to explicitly thank y’all for the diversity of body types represented in these posts. I was overweight for most of my childhood and teen years, so I internalized a lot fat-shaming messages that contributed to terrible body image issues. Thanks for reprogramming my brain to recognize that sexy encompasses a lot more than skinniness (and there’s nothing wrong with that either!).
Preach
Yes! Me too!
that photo of jenny shimizu igrhksfjadfsdf
Take me out!!! Awesome pics, as usual!
Ugh, “desirable people”, what does that even mean? How close a person looks to being a model and how wealthy they are? And I find it sad and horrible that people are aparently rating other people all the time on a totally superficial level. Lets please stop this!
Yay to the woman’s rights trumping the ownership of the photographer! And I’m a photographer.
I just have to say, why are there tumblr blogs called “girls with curves” it should just be called babes?! Cus they are all babes. ALL BABES no matter what size/shape. GEEZ internet. Don’t you know we autostraddle people just want babes!
So glad I don’t live in Georgia ;)
I love the women with curves and suggest we celebrate curves – straight is sinister, curves are sinuous, straight is certainly curves offer different horizons! Body shape conformity suppresses the uniqueness and wonder of the human person, even men have curves! Curves are beautifully pagan and playful!