The feature image of Mona Wales and Kaya Lin and all of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from fetish site Mondo Fetiche. The inclusion of a visual here is not an assertion of a model’s gender or orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.

Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

Tasha Black for Mondo Fetiche

If you have now idea how to act in a relationship, you’re not alone:

“[Y]ou’re not in a 5-D chessboard. This person isn’t your opponent. You’re in a forest, and you’re trying to map it out together. I think this is more exciting than it is scary. What does this person find attractive in other people, in you? What is their perfect idea of a romantic evening, things they’d like to try one day, sexual or nonsexual? What are they comfortable with discussing?

In discovering each other’s boundaries and interests, you make it easier and more enjoyable to keep filling out the map. Remember, you’re not starting over from scratch in an entirely new dynamic here; you’re just adding dimension to a dynamic you already have.”

Uncle Red, Mimosa for Mondo Fetiche

Here are the best protective hairstyles for Black women to have sex in.

Stop over-apologizing.

The first thing to know about dating someone out of your league is that you should stop framing things (like being in different “leagues”) in terms of self-doubt.

We are all over-sharers now.

Bunny Adler and Lucy Kills for Mondo Fetiche

The straights have discovered dressing like someone you’re dating:

“‘One of the main motivations behind dressing a certain way is to fulfill that human desire to belong and to be aligned with a group,’ says Shakaila Forbes-Bell, a fashion psychologist and the founder of Fashion Is Psychology. ‘When couples come together and form a unit, unconsciously they start to dress alike because it’s an easy way to form that social bond.'”

Billie LaBeau, Paris Gray for Mondo Fetiche

Can you learn to be polyamorous? The answer depends on whether you believe you can learn to be anything:

“Here’s the absolute bottom line:

If you think you can’t learn anything new, chances are you’re right.

If you think you can, chances are you’re also right.

And yes, that applies to the interpersonal skills that you’d need to thrive in a polyamorous relationship system”

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