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+ What is sexual compatibility, is it important and why should we care?:
“‘There are a lot of ideas about sexual compatibility in the field of sex therapy, lots of ways to qualify different styles of lovers based on their needs, communication style, and that sort of thing,’ Dr. Timaree Schmit, a sexologist and doctor of Human Sexuality, told Nerve. When I pushed her on a hard and fast definition of erotic compatibility, she explains, ‘I think ultimately what is most important is that lovers as individuals really, legitimately know what they want — not just sexual acts or frequency or type of intimacy, but also what the underlying emotional need is that’s being met through these things.” Part of that comes with communication, as she notes, “someone may say they want sex six times a week and their partner only wants it once a week and that’s the way the problem is identified. But what is it that they both really want? Just to get off? Or perhaps a sense of validation — that they are attractive to their partner? Maybe it’s a wish for intimacy.'”
via suicidegirls
+ Queer porn director Courtney Trouble is going to make mainstream lesbian porn:
“In traditional girl-girl, there’s a list of setups: eight minutes of kissing, then get undressed, then nipple play, then oral, then grinding — that kind of setup is gorgeous and easily shot. Queer porn is generally shot quite differently, with the cameraperson being quiet and uninvolved during a free-form sex date between the two performers. They can be as “realistic” or “performative” as they like on a queer porn set; they aren’t held down to a list of needed shots. I’m interested in playing with the differences by mixing them together. I may discover that there’s no difference, but there’s really no way to tell unless you try it. This may change they way lesbian porn is made forever, or it may just be a lot of extra work — we will see!”
via deviantfemme
+ People with certain types of bodies (proportionally longer legs, or bigger hips, etc.) have certain types of sex lives, according to various sources of research.
+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Erika Moen reviews the Hello Touch.
+ Here are 30 reasons to have more sex, if you didn’t already have reason enough.
+ Girls are more likely to experience negative impacts on their mental health when their relationships don’t meet expectations, according to a new study.
+ Sharing sex toys without cleaning them can increase the chance HPV will be transmitted.
+ If you’re a person with a vagina sleeping with another person with a vagina, information, regular testing, communication and barriers can all be important parts of safer sex:
“Saying you need to use safer sex practices can be just as matter-of-fact as saying you love kissing, or that nipple-play doesn’t do anything for you so can we please do something else thankyouverymuch. You can let your potential partner know that using barriers, such as dental dams, is important to you or that you prefer to avoid some activities because the risk level feels too high for you – just as a general policy and not as a judgment of them or their health. However, if they don’t want to practice safer sex with you, that’s their choice. Then you and your partner(s) get to choose whether sex just doesn’t happen for you (yeah, that part can really put the damper on an otherwise fabulous date), or you can decide to do things everyone enjoys and that carry less – or no – STI-transmission risk. That might mean things like mutual masturbation, dirty or flirty talk, BDSM activities that don’t involve fluids, massage, and/or anything else you can think of.”
via alt and black
+ In an interview at Refinery 29, porn expert/sociologist Dr. Chauntelle Tibbalas discusses how porn and sexuality intersect:
“From a sociological perspective, porn is a part of society. The adult entertainment industry is a huge subculture and a significant part of our global, national, and state communities. Porn is made of people, too — and, it’s consumed by people…People talk about porn like it’s this little bubble. But, the people who work in the adult entertainment industry have other lives. They have kids, families, dogs, hobbies, and second jobs. The people who are making the content are involved in the same society as the people that are consuming the content.
For whatever reason, the nature of that relationship is something we really don’t like to engage, and I think calling attention to that (that it really is this give-and-take and this synergistic relationship) is extremely important. Porn is not feeding us images that we are passively internalizing…porn gives us images that we want, and in turn, we expect to see those images.”
Feature image via Suicide Girls.
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The article about girls and relationship-based self-esteem is super interesting. Thanks!
Also, the last picture is hot (again).
co-signed.
it could be here every week as far as I’m concerned!
Yay, happy Sunday! But also, re:what your body says about your sex life — putting aside taking research out of context to make cosmo-style article, can we all stop saying Capital S Science Thinks This as if science is one monolithic organization that puts out press releases about boobs and food?
But also, yes to all the photos. Yum.
I agree! As a biologist and a feminist I’m always having to explain that these types of articles are not actually based in science. Most of these are misquoted, out of context, etc., and actually sociological or psychological studies; actual studies of biology usually avoid anything that can be generalized over an entire group of people. Not that sociology or psychology are NOT forms of science or valid and important, just that when you say “science” everyone thinks of the hard sciences (biology, chemistry, physics) and I get to hear snarky complaints about my major from my women’s studies departments… :(
Also, I feel like there is a need for a girl gallery featuring people wearing strap-ons… can this be a thing?
I Love to having sex with small girl with bigger hips.