Feature image of Mona Wales and Natalie Chen in Crash Pad Series episode 271. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
“I hold this to be the highest task of a bond between two people: that each should stand guard over the solitude of the other.”
At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Ariel Vittori wrote about Daddy/little dynamics: “It’s like any other kink play consenting adults engage in, focusing on power dynamics. And it’s similar to puppy play: just because someone wants to be in the headspace of a dog doesn’t mean they are into bestiality. … It is, at its core, about expressing a part of your identity and sharing it with someone else. What that means for each individual is different, but at the heart of this kink for most is a sexualization of vulnerability.”
If you disassociate during sex and also fuck dirtbags, Dear Coquette has some advice.
Shaving pubic hair is exhausting.
Here’s how to have a good hook-up in college or university or life. Figure out what you’re into trying or not and what your own boundaries are; learn about consent and communication (as best you can when American colleges are really bad at teaching it); be mostly sober; look out for each other; and ask questions:
“‘There is nothing more confident than someone who asks a question and listens to the answer,’ Fancy Feast told me. ‘That may seem counterintuitive—for a lot of people, we’re afraid of not knowing something. But having genuine curiosity in the person in front of you is the hottest thing. And it indicates that you’re really interested in what makes them tick. I find that to be the hottest, most baddest shit. All of your peers are too chickenshit to ask questions about what somebody likes!'”
That first link on love and solitude ~ thank you!
If love is growth, expansion, an unfurling, then how could we not want that space for it, that widest horizon of possibility? For all those we love, including our own selves.
“Shaving public hair is exhausting.” AGREED.
Yes. And think it’s a typo, but shaving public hair sounds even more exhausting than pubic hair.
The pubic hair article doesn’t even mention the good ol’ trim!
To each their own and stuff, but also the trim is the objectively best pubic hairstyle. It provides easy access for your activity partners without irritating your skin at all. What more can anyone ask for?
oh my GOD, that coquette article!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!