Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
Feature image of Laura Cramer and LadyLuck278 via liquorinthefront.
+ You’re probably sick of straight people asking you to explain terms like heteronormativity, top/bottom/switch, butch/femme and scissoring:
“Scissoring, while not as popular as your precious lesbian porn would have you believe, is nonetheless a real thing. It involves two ladies, one of whom is rubbing her clit on her partner. If the laws of physics are on your side, then both parties’ clits will touch, but in reality you’re more likely to hit a thigh, stomach, or Albuquerque. Scissoring can also go by tribadism, which is Greek for ‘Stop rubbing your junk on the good china, Sandra!’ and can involve a multitude of positions, like legs intertwined, good ol’ missionary, and the new ‘Blue Is the Warmest Color’ favorite, Reverse Anxious Crabwalk.”
+ The way you sleep actual sleep with your activity partner says a lot about your personalities and your relationship, according to a recent study:
“The survey uncovered that the most popular sleep position (42% of couples) was sleeping back-to-back, followed by 31% who face the same direction when they sleep. A mere 4% snooze while facing one another.
The research also revealed that 12% of couples spend the night in bed less than an inch apart (aw!), compared to 2% of partners who sleep more than 30 inches apart — that’s over two feet. The survey also found that extroverts in particular were more likely to slumber close to their partners.”
+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Erika Moen talked about consent.
+ All of this relationship advice is terrible.
Nadia Alboulhosn via plus size model
+ If you’re in poly relationships, PolyLife is an app that’s not Google Calendar to help you keep everyone straight.
+ Sex work is work.
Taisha by Erik Danielson loneookami
+ Don’t have an ego in sex, okay? It’s gross and no fun:
“I want it to be okay in sex play situations for everyone to speak up and request some sort of change if they need it. Faster, slower, harder, deeper, shallower, not so much on the nipples, you’re pulling my hair too hard, ow your knee is digging into my thigh, ease off the slapping please—whatever it is, I want to know, and I do not want to be so blinded by my sore ego that I make it seem like they shouldn’t say those things.
So I say an enthusiastic thank you, and I mean it.”
via suicide girls
+ Physical attraction is basically the only thing that matters at the very beginning of a relationship, according to reports from Tinder, an app that more or less depends on that assumption:
“This is not exactly groundbreaking for anyone who has been alive at a freshman mixer. Romantic attraction hinges on attraction, which usually hinges on at least some quality of your physical form. In short, no matter what ideas the world of Her has shucked our way, you’re going to need some physical bones to size up before you want to jump them, and that’s just a fact. […]
The instant, subconscious communication of a Tinder picture may actually convey much more than the “proprietary algorithms” of other dating sites. Maybe this instinct is more important than a formula that tries to predict and measure our whimsical, poorly considered likes and interests. After all, most of us know that looks matter more than words to get anything off the ground, and that all the ostensible compatibility in the world isn’t a guarantee of anything.”
+ Everything You Thought You Knew About Lesbian Sex is Wrong! I don’t think we’re the target audience for this article, but we’re cited and that sure is nice.
+ Porn shot by drones is now a thing:
“At first it seems like you’re watching Planet Earth shot by UAVs, but remain patient. Look closer. Shot in drone-crazed San Francisco, the video by Ghost+Cow Films displays not only the technical capabilities of high tech hardware in the style of so much so-called gadget porn, but also the natural gifts of a number of actors/lovers/surveillance targets as they celebrate drone technology au natural.”
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lol “Scissoring can also go by tribadism, which is Greek for ‘Stop rubbing your junk on the good china, Sandra!”….. dammit sandra, can’t take you anywhere!
“Reverse Anxious Crabwalk”
*dies, slips into casket, ascends to queer heaven*
Some of the jokes on that terminology article are great, but is anyone else cringing over a resource which uncritically includes the bullshit terms “saysbian”, “hasbian” or “yestergay”? And also agrees with PFLAG that “queer” can denote “the straight ally who marches during Pride”???
I kind of wonder about the physical attraction thing for us asexual folks. Anyone else on the asexual spectrum want to comment?
I also kind of wonder about the methodology and reliability of data from a company whose service depends that their study show specific results.
That poly app looks interesting. Thanks!