Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
Feature image via pinktacolovers.
+ At the Hairpin, Lindsay King-Miller answers questions about your girlfriend’s therapist and processing processing, successful long-distance relationships, femme-femme sexual attraction and more:
“That said, for the most part, the key to a successful relationship is the same when you live a continent apart as it is when you share a coffee cup every morning. Communicate. Be open and honest about your needs, your wants, your struggles. Be willing to compromise, but know what’s a dealbreaker for you. Talk about important things and trivial things. Make each other laugh. Plan for the future. Do everything you can to make your partner feel special and treasured. Send ‘thinking of you’ texts in the middle of the work day. Email them cute baby animal pictures when you know they’re having a rough week. Make them the first person you call with good news. The occasional naked Skype session doesn’t hurt, either.”
via womenofcolor
+ You should definitely read about Hannah’s experiences in a masturbation cult slash TurnON event if you haven’t yet.
+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Jess Fink wrote about erotic comics.
+ Everybody is sexting all the time now, giving the contemporary sext “a postmodern aesthetic with roots reaching back to pre-modern forms of female representation, from the original 17th century ‘posture girl.'”
model : clarke lauren
photographer : alfred m. muteti // via darkskinnedblackbeauty
+ Sometimes, when you’re young, you only start realizing that sex exists because of certain songs, and liking music because it can say things about you instead of just because you like it:
“There was a really confusing phase of listening to both Mariah and Bikini Kill, fantasizing about wildly disparate types of relationships depending on what was in my Discman (remember Discmans? Discmen?). I listened to “How Much” and imagined a dreamy, soft-focus, obsessive love with hand-holding and flower petals and shedding gentle tears because of the unbearable intensity of my emotions. Then I’d rock out to “Rebel Girl” and imagine making out with a really cool girl with really cool clothes, including huge black boots that she would let me borrow before we went out to change the world (in ways that, to my sheltered white middle class imagination, were dramatic but also kind of vague.)”
via curvesandwords
+ Here is a lovely defence of queer marriage:
“I feel about her like I have never felt about anything before. I don’t know what words to choose, because no words said to me before this could have conveyed it to me. I don’t know how to make you understand, but to hope that you will. The words I would choose would be – altruism, tenderness, softness, quietness, constant awe. Goosebumps, counting-down-the-minutes anticipation. I feel like I’ve found my co-pilot. We met on a tram. As per Eleanor Catton, ‘what’s the likelihood? That the one girl who makes my heart race is the one who wants me in return? That the accident of my attraction coincides with the accident of hers?’ This serendipity, this grandness and the small moments. I told her I loved her on the riverbank, on a dark spring evening, as party boats cruised past playing party songs. I want my life to be linked to hers, my love to be linked to hers, through every ritual and antiquation I can find. I want the sea of eyes focused on us as ours are focused on each other. I want everybody to understand the promises I will make to her, even if I haven’t found the words yet myself.”
+ Sex can help you get rid of your headache.
Between The Sheets Early Fall Lookbook via bts bedtime stories
+ Here is why people like erotic fan fiction.
+ Period sex can be amazing.
+ If you try to communicate with your activity partner using only emoji, you can end up constructing your own visual language, as one couple discovered:
“During their month of emoji-cation, confusion readily ensued when it came to things like grocery shopping and letting each other know if the other should come to drinks. After the month had passed, however, Goldmark and Stark both thought that eliminating written words actually altered their emotional vocabulary for the better. It also forced them to work together to build a visual language that only the two of them understood, which brought them closer together as a couple.”
via andro adiction
+ If you get self-conscious about your body during sex, there are some ways to feel less so, including focusing on the moment, connecting with your body in healthy ways, spending more time naked and more:
“I know it might sound intimidating, but if you feel self-conscious about your body during sex, you may find it useful to spend even more time naked. Sleep naked, eat breakfast naked, watch TV naked, pay your bills naked. It’s like desensitization therapy. The more time you spend in your birthday suit, the less intense it will feel getting naked before sex.”
via drawnwithcurves
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The pictures this week are extra excellent, I must say.
“what’s the likelihood? That the one girl who makes my heart race is the one who wants me in return? That the accident of my attraction coincides with the accident of hers?” ALL OF THE FEELS
Yeah. This x 1000
My perspective has been that the best part of having to have a period is the opportunity to be comforted by a woman.
AH that queer marriage defense- so lovely and well timed for my life also!
Good wisdom on hairpin