Feature image of Halo the GxdBody and La Muxer Diosa in Crash Pad Series episode 305. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
Girl Sex 101 author Alison Moon talked to Xtra about how to be a better hookup, why talking about sex is important, and why so many people are bad at it:
“There’s an assumption that sex is something we automatically learn by doing. It’s weird that sex is the one thing in this world that we’re just expected to “figure out.” We don’t get lessons about sex and desire from teachers or parents or trusted adults. We don’t have people who we can go to and ask, “Is this right?” “Are my desires to do this thing normal?” Sex is this weird black box. Even among leftist, radical, sex-positive folks, there’s cultural silence about specifics. […]
That lack of conversation separates us from living in a liberated society. How can we imagine talking about the complexities of abortion or sex work when we’re afraid to talk about sex in general with people that we know?”
The Ever Given saga will live on in horny fanfic.
How do trans erotica writers redefine desirability?
Here’s how to meet up with internet quarantine friends in real life. And here’s how to make small talk when you do:
“‘Questions are by far the most important tool in any conversation,’ Akash Karia, a professional public speaker and the author of Small Talk Hacks: The People Skills & Communication Skills You Need to Talk to Anyone and be Instantly Likeable, told VICE. He said that asking questions and actually listening to the answers is key to being an interesting conversationalist. ‘If you have a level of curiosity, about people’s lives, and you’re able to extract experiences by asking questions,’ he said, ‘1), You flatter the other person, because you’re asking them to talk about themselves. 2), it takes the pressure off you, because you don’t need to always be filling that space with things. 3), it gives the other person a topic to talk about.'”
🤔 is the NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday getting shorter each week?
It does seem short this week, doesn’t it? Maybe people aren’t writing as much about sex in a pandemic?
that fanfic article though
(Surprised they didn’t include Chuck Tingle’s contribution.)