Feature image of Adina and Saffron in Crash Pad Series episode 303. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
Golden Curlz in Crash Pad Series episode 209
You know what it’s not the time for? Texting your ex:
“[T]ake a moment to think about why you want to reach out to someone you used to date. For instance, scrolling through old social media posts could make you feel nostalgic, so you should consider whether this nostalgia is for that person, or for a time before your life was disrupted. “It’s very reasonable to be mourning the loss of your life ‘before,’ Jansen explains. “This could lead to romanticizing a past relationship, and feeling tempted to reach out when you wouldn’t have a month ago.”
Over the past few weeks, psychotherapist and relationship expert Haley Neidichhas had several clients bring up the fact that they have been texting their exes—or at least thinking about it. “It was evident in all of these cases that the individuals were struggling with filling their time in a structured way, not connecting enough with other people (socially isolating) and experiencing worsening depression,” she explains. “When we have intense and uncomfortable emotions or we feel out of control—as we all do now—we have a drive to regain control and soothe our challenging emotions.””
If you must text your ex, please consult Autostraddle’s helpful guide first. Stay safe out there.
Halo the GxdBody and La Muxer Diosa in Crash Pad Series episode 305
Here’s how to say no, even during a pandemic:
“The problem, of course, is that saying no to people is hard, even during a pandemic—or, maybe, even more during pandemic. You might feel obligated to FaceTime with the ex who is suddenly trying to rekindle a friendship, or guilty about wanting to say to your parent, “I’m so sorry, but I can’t do two hour phone conversations every single night. Also, please stop texting me about how competent and handsome you think Andrew Cuomo is!!!”
But you also can’t be all things to all people, or exist in a constant state of “I swear to God, if I have to shout-talk about coronavirus on one more Zoom call today, I’m going to effing lose it!!!” There’s no time like a crisis to learn to trust yourself, listen to your own needs, and set boundaries with grace and confidence.”
Adina and Saffron in Crash Pad Series episode 303
When you have multiple partners, who do you quarantine with?
You should not be sneaking out for lockdown sex. Or for sex parties. Send a perfect hole pic instead, or make a long-distance date feel special. Online orgies go back “decades.”
In case you need it: here’s how to fall asleep.
Maggie McMuffin and Tender Furiosa in Crash Pad Series episode 295
Omg you are a star, I do want to fall asleep!
Thanks for the help, n’night!