How to initiate sex sober?
Q
My partner and I are both switches, which is great, but we've both realized that neither of us are the people who make the first move. When we first started dating I was still drinking (I'm an alcoholic, 2 years sober) so I did. make the first move back then. Now that I don't drink anymore, I don't know how I used to do it. We live together, we work a lot. HOW DO I MAKE THE FIRST MOVE??? What do I say?
A
Summer: Ah, two people with sex drives that are receptive and reactive but are not active pursuers themselves. Or, the story of far too many sapphic relationships in history.
Well, my congratulations to you on your sobriety and your recognition of the complex reality that substance use is both enjoyable and harm...