I also don’t want to lose them or try to change them, but...
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I’ve been dating someone for six months. We never put a label on it, but we spend a lot of time together and like each other a lot. I can see myself falling in love with them but I’ve kept a lot of walls up because the problem is that they are poly and I am monogamous. We've talked about this being a problem, and we’re both allowed to see other people since we aren’t official,  but I haven’t been and I don’t ask them if they are seeing other people, they know I don’t want to hear about other dates. Now it’s been long enough that I think we have to either break up or become official girlfriends. Can it work?
I don’t want to be polyamorous. But, I also don’t want to lose them or...