OH THE HYPOCRISY!
Because we delusionally or self-indulgently believe that anyone who dedicates their lives to condemning, shaming, and eliminating the rights of homosexual people must be motivated by some serious self-hatred (Because really how much can you possibly hate someone who’s never harmed you or anyone you know? Self-hate is far more likely.); we are not totally surprised to see that George Alan Rekers hired a male escort from rentboy.com for a ten-day European vacation.
George Alan Rekers, a Baptist minister and leading scholar for the Christian right, formed the Family Research Council (a D.C. based anti-gay evangelical Christian lobbying group who sets the tone for America’s far right-wing) with James Dobson, “America’s best-known homophobe” in 1983. (Dobson’s sins, as well as those of many others like him, are detailed in our piece Evangelicals, Rapists, Tramps & Thieves: Why Anti-Gay Leaders Love to Sin, Are the Sinners).
George Alan Rekers is an officer of NARTH, the National Association for Research & Therapy of Homosexuality.
Rekers has been an advisor to the Department of Health and Human Services and served as a Harvard University research fellow and a professor of neuropsychiatry at USC. From The New Times:
…much of Rekers’s activism over the past three decades — beginning with his 1983 book, Shaping Your Child’s Sexual Identity — has been devoted to improving children’s lives by educating them, protecting them from their own budding sexualities, and keeping them safe from gay adoptions — as he did by testifying as an expert witness in favor of gay adoption bans in both Arkansas and Florida.
How does Rekers explain his reportedly delightful vacation?
Reached by New Times before a trip to Bermuda, Rekers said he learned Lucien was a prostitute only midway through their vacation. “I had surgery,” Rekers said, “and I can’t lift luggage. That’s why I hired him.” (Medical problems didn’t stop him from pushing the tottering baggage cart through MIA.)
He claims that he was unaware that his companion, dubbed “Lucien” by The Miami New Times, was “in that line of work” until a few days into the trip.
At the small western Miami townhome he shares with a roommate, a nervous Lucien expressed surprise when we told him that Rekers denied knowing about his line of work from the beginning. “He should’ve been able to tell you that,” he said, fidgeting and fixing his eyes on his knees. “But that’s up to him.”
The New Times details why it would’ve been impossible for Rekers to find his rentboy via any other avenue besides rentboy itself, which requires its users to acknowledge they are not offended by graphic sexual material before entering the site. It’s a pretty bizarre and interesting story. Check it out.
COMING OUT:
Lily Tomlin Could’ve Made This Whole Business of Coming Out on Magazines So Passe. In 1975. (@queerty)
10 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY TO A LESBIAN:
The good ol’ boys at Asylum (“FOR ALL MANKIND”) got an actual lesbian to give them tips on what you should never say to a lesbian, such as:
10. “You just haven’t met the right guy yet.” No, but I certainly seem to be talking to the wrong one right now. Maybe you haven’t met the right guy.
9. “Wanna have a threesome?” No, but I’ll take your girl home and teach her a thing or two about what she’s been missing.
8. “Lesbians can’t have sex.” Oh yeah? You just keep telling yourself that, if it makes you feel better
NICK MINAJ:
Clutch analyzes the bisexuality in this Usher and Nick Minaj video:
For hip-hop, the bisexual woman is a means to an ends. In the case of the average rapper, she is one third of a threesome and for the rising Minaj, it has been the distinguishing feature to set her apart on her road to fame. … The simplification of the bisexual woman in hip-hop is not just an issue for the LGBT community; it is an embarrassment to us all. (@clutch)
BOOBS:
Have you ever wondered why breasts are such a big deal? Yeah, you probably haven’t questioned it, but anyway here’s a pretty scientific breakdown of why (based on the straight male perspective, sub out pronouns as needed). (@psychologytoday)
MOTHER’S DAY:
Mother’s Day is this weekend, don’t say we didn’t remind you! Change.org would like to take this opportunity to remind us all of what we owe our feminist, lesbian and activist mothers (using the term loosely as well as literally, here).
Oh speaking of Mother’s Day, have you heard about this movie, Babies? I’m pretty effing excited about it because it combines the cuteness of kids that I don’t have to care for with the awesomeness of sociological lessons and the promise of universal truth! It comes out on Friday, maybe you should take your mom. (@USAToday)
GAY COP:
A gay police officer in the UK arrested a priest for calling homosexuality a sin, which can be considered hate speech there. Cops maintained his comments about gays were made loudly enough to be heard by other passersby in the area. “I felt deeply shocked and humiliated that I had been arrested in my own town and treated like a common criminal in front of people I know,” McAlpine told the Telegraph.
Too bad that guy felt humiliated. I’m sure a gay person never felt bad after being called sinful, though. (@nydailynews)
FREE PRESS:
The Washington Blade may be back, but the Chicago Free Press is gone. The Free Press, an 11-year-old gay-focused weekly magazine, abruptly quit publication this week due to the publisher’s health problems. (@chicagotribune)
COME OUT COME OUT:
With all these people coming out recently on the covers of People and Curve, Queerty asks but what about the magazines? (@queerty)
IPAD:
What’s up with the iPad ads being so gendered? Double X is getting tired of all this binary crap: With the iPad, it seems like we will definitely need more than one because the new Apple product performs different functions for boys and girls—or at least that’s what the iPad’s ad campaign would have you believe. ...In the ads featuring a male using the iPad, he is always shown reading the New York Times or Wall Street Journal, while the ads with female users always show her organizing picture albums or reading Nicholas Sparks’ The Last Song. (@slate)
I’m pretty tired of the binary, too, FTR. I tried to buy a birthday card yesterday, and the story only had his or hers options. We can’t just wish a PERSON happy birthday anymore? ‘Cause I think a card with a cute puppy on the front is an equal opportunity pleaser.
Eugh, if only aggro straight guys would heed that advice! Ive been harassed in every single gay bar in this city, one example was this guy trying to dance with me so I said no, back off, im gay and he said “It’s ok, I can make you straight…” ewwwww! And the times ive heard, oh you cant be gay, you dont look like a lesbian, give me patience!
Anyway, I really cannot understand when these anti-gay idiots turn out to love a bit of man on the side. I mean, I get that people have difficulties coming to terms with their sexuality and some people dont like being gay…but why and how in the fuck could you justify imposing hateful views on others and causing hurt to others because of your problems. It’s just beyond comprehension!
wow, and another anti-gay leader getting caught with his pants down… didn’t see that one coming
this is my shocked face =O
BABIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIES!
You know what happened to me once? I saw the following trailers in this exact order:
The Blind Side
Precious
Babies
Basically, I couldn’t stop crying for, like, a WEEK. I cannot fucking wait to see Babies. I am going to sob and sob and sob and beg the tomboy to impregnate me 10 million times, and I don’t care. I DON’T CARE. It’s been over 12 years since my baby was an actual baby, and I have to get my kicks somewhere, yo.
I’m going to watch the hell out of that movie, for serious.
AND THEN MY OVARIES WILL EXPLODE.
I’m somewhere between raging and lulzing at that clutch critique of Nicki Minaj…. “She is a gorgeous woman who could have any man she wants and also happens to go both ways. She is promiscuous and insatiable. Unabashedly bold, she radiates sexual energy from the moment she walks through the room.” You say this like it’s a bad thing!!!
Ok, while this song is about Nicki getting a third for a threesome with Usher, the other partners she names in her verse are all women… idk I don’t quite know where to begin in deconstructing this critique.
FU at calling Nicki hip-hop’s current “on call hoe.”
For once, I’d like for people to assume a woman’s agency in pop culture, rather than trying to defend that it exists.
Do you know how many offers she has to get signed? instead of signing, she’s been releasing mix-tapes to build up her reputation and audience, to leverage the exact deal she wants. she’s said she doesn’t have any idols in hip-hop, because no female rapper has had the career longevity that she wants. She’s fierce, she’s independent, and she’s building herself up, and she STILL has time for threesomes. You go girl.
Maybe it’s just me, but the name “iPad” might be pretty engendered to begin with.
ahhahahahha, iAgree.
THIS
Just general whining about cards, since you mentioned it: buying cards for my girlfriend is always such a hassle. I have to do a lot of searching to not find a card that says, “Happy Anniversary, Wife.” In an ideal world it would all be a little more gender-neutral — and maybe I’d be able to find a Happy Mother’s Day card for two moms…
I buy people ‘Condolences on the death of your Grandma’ cards for their birthday. Generally gets a laugh.
Not so much vice-versa though….
Of course he’s a gay. Look at that moustache.
omg if you read the comments on that post for the “10 things you should never say to a lesbian, someone commented with this hahaha!:
Lesbians are indeed great for hanging out with, talking to about sports and beating you in arm wresting. Unfortunately, due to having watched too much porn, lack of manners and/or intelligence most guys don’t take advantage of the many social benefits of spending time with Lesbians. Without further ado, this real life straight male will present the 10 things you can do to take advantage of your lesbian.
#10: When Carpooling, Lesbians won’t call shotgun, but they still count for HOV lanes: If your girl is with you in the car, she gets shotgun automatically. If your bros are with you, they’ll fight over it. A lesbian will seat in the back without making a big deal about it. They’re just like that.
#9: You can borrow her clothes: If you wear straight girl clothes, you’re either a frat boy getting hazed or a hipster. If you wear a lesbian’s clothes, no one notices.
#8: You can enjoy the friend zone without the sexual tension: Because if she’s a lesbian, she’s definitely not interested in you anyway. Right? Right?
#7: She’ll fix your shit: Lesbians love to prove that they can do anything a man can do. This can easily be turned to your advantage. Tell her she can’t change your flat, mow your lawn, grill your steak or spay your dog and she’ll do it just to prove you wrong. Try getting a straight girl to do that and you’ll end up sitting through a Pride and Prejudice marathon or munching carpet for the same amount of time. Choose your poison.
#6: She can save your life: All Lesbians know CPR. Fact.
#5: She’ll wing for you: Girls are more effective wingman than guys. Girls will trust other girls quicker, grind on other girls quicker and make out with other girls quicker. As she sows the whirlwind, you shall reap the wind. Sorry Iceman.
#4: She’s got your back in a fight: Plus the other guy can’t hit her, because she’s a girl. This works especially well if you hang out with rugby players.
#3: She’ll tell you stories: You think YOU had a crazy spring break in Daytona Beach? SHE had a crazy spring break in Phuket with an Australian, a virgin and a Thai Ladyboy on a beach under a full moon and they all went out for waffles the next day and still send each other Christmas cards.
#2: She won’t have sex with you, but she’ll watch: Kind of like your dog. It’s a little creepy at first, but then you all get used to it.
#1: Your girlfriend will really really like her and want to emulate her: Straight and Bi Girls like lesbians, because they represent a courageous and adventurous side of themselves that they like to explore. But they also like to explore with guys. And that, my friend, you can take to the bank.
http://www.asylum.com/2010/05/03/10-things-you-should-never-say-to-a-lesbian-nikki-dowling/
omggg I feel like I maybe should be offended but instead I can’t stop laughing. God, lesbians are so awesome!
Wow, what a hysteric, what a voice. The man just likes male escorts and their service.
Very interesting blog, really like it!