Why Won’t My Gay Coworker Hang Out With Me and My Gay Friends?

I gotta admit, this is starting to feel homophobic!? JK but...
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I’m part of a small but tightknit group of queers at my office and thanks to a company mixer late last year, we recently learned that there’s ANOTHER GAY working in our company because she brought her girlfriend to it! That she lives with! It’s a big company but I’d seen her around and she just didn’t ping for any of us but we were so excited to see her there with her girlfriend.
We’ve invited her to eat lunch with us and to come to our happy hour (where 2 of us are sober, which we mentioned, in case she was sober or her gf). We invited her and her gf to a birthday party (again, sober-friendly and chill), and to a queer hangout (not a gay bar per se but it’s aesthetically quee...

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